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My sister Lisa lost her husband about a
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year ago. It was a tragic time and in
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the aftermath, she naturally reached out
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to our family for support. My husband
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Rick, always a compassionate soul, was
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there for her. They started hanging out
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a lot, sometimes without me, which at
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first I didn't think much of. Grieving
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people need space, right? But then I
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came home one day and found them
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sleeping in our bed. They weren't facing
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each other and they were fully clothed,
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but still. It was our bed. My bed. I
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remember the surge of discomfort,
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confusion, and a deep unsettling
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I confronted them angry, asking what was
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going on. Neither of them seemed to
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understand why I was upset. They acted
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as if it was completely innocent.
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Regardless, it made me deeply
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uncomfortable, and I asked Lisa to
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I thought that would be the end of it. I
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truly did. Well, the very next day, my
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husband invited her over without saying
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anything to me. I remember opening the
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door to find her standing there, tears
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streaming down her face. Before I could
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even react, she ran into his arms.
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And then, before anyone said anything,
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she did something that completely
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floored me. She demanded I leave the
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room. She had something to say, she
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claimed, but didn't feel comfortable
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telling me with me present.
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I teared up, my mind reeling, a cold
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dread creeping into my stomach.
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I went into the other room, barely
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registering what was happening, my heart
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pounding with a terrible premonition.
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And then I heard it, Lisa moaning. I got
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up, my legs feeling like lead, and
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walked back into the room. What I saw
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next shattered my entire world right in
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front of my eyes. They were making out.
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My husband, my sister in our home, I
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couldn't breathe. I ran out, desperate
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to escape, feeling like I was going to
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vomit right there and locked myself in
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An hour later, Rick walked in. He
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wouldn't even look at me. He mumbled
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something barely audible and went and
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I was so consumed with rage that he
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wouldn't even meet my eyes that I almost
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left right then and there. I finally
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managed to ask him, "What the hell is
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going on with you and my sister?" He sat
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there for a few minutes, silent while I
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was crying my eyes out, the tears
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until I finally yelled at him to answer
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me. He whispered two words that ripped
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I love her. At this point, I completely
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lost it. I started screaming, "How could
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you do this to me? Do these past 10
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years mean nothing to you?" I literally
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dropped to my knees, pleading, "How
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could you betray me with my own sister
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and then tell me you love her?"
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He was quiet the entire time, letting my
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anguish fill the room until I finally
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stopped yelling, exhausted and raw. Then
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he spoke again. He said that he had been
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regretting not experimenting with other
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women before we got married and that he
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shouldn't have married the first girl he
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was with. I was stunned.
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"Did you even ever love me?" I asked, my
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voice barely a whisper. "He said yes,
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but that after spending time with my
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sister, he realizes she is who he wants
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to be with." I had no words. My entire
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life was falling apart in front of my
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eyes, and I was terrified. In that
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moment of absolute despair, a desperate,
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almost subconscious thought surfaced. I
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dropped a bombshell on him. I told him I
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might be pregnant. It was the truth. We
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had been trying for a while and I was
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late. His reaction, however, was not
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what I expected. He didn't freak out. He
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said that he would support me. But then
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he delivered the next crushing blow. He
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said that he was leaving me to go be
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with my sister. He apologized to me and
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told me I deserved better than him and
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that he would do whatever he could to
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help me and the baby. And then came the
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ultimate insult. If I agreed to divorce
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him, he would give me everything.
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He just wants out of our marriage. In
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that moment, I felt like I hated him and
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never wanted to see him again. So, I
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screamed at him. Fine, just get the f
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out. You ruined my life. I hope you are
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effing happy, you piece of crap.
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And then he had the audacity to try to
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hug me. I flipped out and pushed him off
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of me, recoiling from his touch.
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Someone knocked on the door then,
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interrupting the nightmare. He told me
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that he still loved me and we would
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figure everything out. And then he left
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just like that. I decided to call my
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parents and tell them what happened,
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needing some anchor in the chaos. My
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mom, instead of comfort, dropped another
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bombshell on me. My sister had told her
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a while ago that she had feelings for my
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husband and wanted to be with him. My
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own mother knew and hadn't told me. At
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that moment, I was sitting on the
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computer numbly looking up lawyers in my
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area. I woke up this morning feeling
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like complete crap, an emotional and
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I didn't want to get up. I finally
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dragged myself to get a pregnancy test
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and thank God I was not pregnant.
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It was bittersweet because we had been
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trying to get pregnant for a while now
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and I never thought I'd be so glad to
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see I wasn't pregnant. The thought of
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bringing a child into this absolute
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It was too much. A little while later, I
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left the house to get groceries, my head
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still spinning. When I opened my
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mailbox, there was a letter in it from
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Lisa. After I got home, I opened it and
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read it. It was an apology of sorts. She
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said that she was very vulnerable after
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losing her husband and after spending so
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much time with my husband. She started
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to fall for him. She thought she
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wouldn't ever love anyone else again. So
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when she realized she loved my husband,
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she knew she couldn't let him go. She
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actually wrote that no one else can fill
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the hole in her heart except him. Lisa
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promised they never physically did
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anything before that kiss I caught them
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in. and she went on to say she needs me
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in her life and that she hopes I can
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forgive her. I can't write any more
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about this right now. I was a mess. Rick
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also called me a little while ago. I
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didn't pick up the phone, so he texted
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me. And guess what he said? He told me
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that he still loves me and that we can
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find a way to work this out. I don't
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know what the that means since he
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just left me for Lisa. Now I'm really
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confused because now that I'm not
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pregnant, I actually want to be. And I
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want my marriage to not be over even
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though I hate him for what he's done to
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me. Why would he text me that? Is he
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changing his mind? I'm so utterly
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confused. I wish these past few days
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never happened so there would be nothing
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wrong still. I know I shouldn't forgive
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him if he wants another chance, but 10
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years of marriage, we were going to be
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I'm so confused and hurt I can't even
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think straight. I talked to my mother
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again and this time she informed me that
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she has known about my sister having a
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thing for my husband for quite some
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time. She didn't want to tell me she
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said because she was trying to get my
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sister to give up the idea and she did
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not want me to be hurt. She apparently
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got my sister to agree to let it go a
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few months ago and never heard anything
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more about it. So she thought it was
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over. The level of deception in my own
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family, it's sickening. In the letter I
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got in the mail, I did not want to write
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it all down because it was very painful.
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But a few days has passed and I am ready
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to share some more information.
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In the letter, Lisa apologized for her
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behavior, but also went on to blame me.
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She said that I flaunted my happiness in
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front of her with my husband.
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She wrote she couldn't stand to see how
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happy we were and how he genuinely loved
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me and she had no one.
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She also went on to say that my husband
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told her he never really loved me and
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that she was who he really wanted to be
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with and asked me to not contact him.
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She wants me to go through her if I want
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to say anything to him and that she will
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bring over the divorce papers in a few
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weeks. My head spun trying to process
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this. I have had a few days to process
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this information, but the more I think
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about it, the more confusing it seems to
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me. And then I got more information
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Lisa is pregnant. She says it's Rick's.
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Rick called me as soon as he heard my
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father informed me. I picked up the
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phone only because I wanted to hear how
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he could lie to my face and tell me
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nothing happened between them before
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He told me that he was so sorry, and he
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didn't want it to happen this way. that
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my father wasn't supposed to tell me. I
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started crying and asked him how he
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could get pregnant with Lisa when we
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were trying for a baby. Then he said
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something that stunned me so much my
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head is still spinning from it. Rick
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told me he could still get me pregnant
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if I wanted. I screamed at him. Why the
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foss would I want to be pregnant with
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your child when you are a piece of crap?
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He then tried to explain himself. He
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said that he wanted to be with both me
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and my sister and that he thinks he is
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polyamorous. I was so shocked that I
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started laughing. A hysterical
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disbelieving laugh. After I stopped
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laughing, he tried to say something
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else. Then I heard Lisa enter the room
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and ask who he was on the phone with. He
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said, "Nobody." And hung up. A little
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later, my sister texted me and told me
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she would bring over the divorce papers
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in a week and expected me to sign them
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on the spot as my husband is giving me
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everything. She then gave me a heads up.
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They are getting married next month and
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I am invited to the wedding if I agree
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to pretend like I was never even
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romantically involved with my husband. I
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am literally at such a loss right now.
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Who the is this man? And where is
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the one I married? Why the after
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all this crap, do I still want to be
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with him even though I know I can't be?
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I just want the man I've been with for
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the past 10 years back. I hate Lisa and
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no longer consider her my sister. She
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has ruined my entire life. But what do I
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do about my husband? He just texted me
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right now saying he still wants to be
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with me, loves me, and wants a baby with
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me. Why is he doing this to me? Why am I
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even considering it? I am deeply ashamed
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to write this and admit it. But after
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Rick hung up that call, the offer got
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more and more tempting.
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I started thinking about it, becoming
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enraged at my sister for doing what she
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did to me, thinking that I could get
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back at her by doing it, throwing it in
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her face that her new boyfriend doesn't
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love her more than me. After all, I was
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so angry that I heavily considered doing
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it. The more I thought about it, the
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more I wanted to out of sheer petty
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Don't get me wrong, I also wanted my
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husband and my life back. But the
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thought of seeing my sister's newfound
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happiness and smuggness over me come
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crashing down gave me a pleasure that I
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never would have imagined. My sister
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tried very hard to keep my contact with
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Rick limited. I think she was afraid he
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would come back to me if she didn't. She
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was only able to accomplish this for a
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few months. Rick tried to contact me in
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numerous ways during this time, but it
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was always very brief. I was still angry
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and non-receptive to his advances, but
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he started becoming more and more
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aggressive, telling me how much he loved
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me, how much he missed me, and how much
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he still wanted me. I even tried
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blocking him on certain social media
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accounts, but he kept trying on others.
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I know I should have just blocked him on
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everything, but I just couldn't. The
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more he tried, the harder it was for me
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to say no. Unfortunately, this resulted
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in us getting back together.
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I told him I wouldn't stay with him
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unless he left my sister. He swore to me
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up and down he loved me more than
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anything, and that facing losing me made
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him realize it, and that my sister was
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nothing to him. Everything was amazing
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between us again. It was like old times,
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and like my sister didn't even exist
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when he was with me. Yet every night he
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would go back to her. Stupidly, I
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decided to believe him when he said he
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was just waiting for the right time and
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excuse after excuse about how bad he
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felt for her. Things felt so much better
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when he was back with me. I didn't want
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to lose him again. Unfortunately, I
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ended up getting pregnant because I did
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not recont continue my birth control
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from when we were trying for a child
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before any of this happened. At the
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time, we were both ecstatic and
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everything seemed like it was a dream
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come true. I had my husband back. We
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were having a child and my life was no
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I was so happy that I turned a blind eye
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to everything obviously messed up about
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I didn't want to see it. I just wanted
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to stay happy. It wasn't long before
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Lisa found out and my entire family
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turned on me. My parents told me how it
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seems like I did this just out of
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retaliation and to hurt Lisa.
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They weren't completely wrong, but I
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mainly just wanted my old life back.
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Long story short, Lisa went absolutely
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berserk. She threatened to unalive me
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and sent me a long list of neverending
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harassing texts, emails, and calls. I
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endured hell from her and my family for
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months until I had to get a protective
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order. This only resulted in my family
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hating me even more.
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Now, none of them will speak to me. And
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Rick, Rick has been issued an ultimatum
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by them. Cut me off or be cut off from
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He hasn't decided on what he is going to
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do yet, but it seems like he is leaning
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towards cutting me off as he has been
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communicating with me less and less
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these past weeks. Not to mention, there
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has been mounting pressure from the
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family for him to finalize the divorce.
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But it hasn't happened for various
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reasons. The last thing he told me was
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that he feels badly, but that he loves
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her and passive aggressively insinuated
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that I tempted him into trying to get
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back with me, which is complete bull
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crap because he was the one who kept
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pursuing me. He even said that I
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shouldn't have gotten pregnant because
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now I've made his life so much harder.
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How I let myself believe he was the man
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I married again is beyond me. Now all I
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see is how clouded my judgment has been
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and the utter mess I've gotten myself
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How I wanted to be happy again so badly.
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I destroyed my life even more trying to
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get that back. I'm 8 months pregnant and
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scared. I don't know how I can raise
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this baby alone. I really don't want to
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give her up for adoption. And the pain
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of losing my husband twice is
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Even though I know it was because of my
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I still love him and can't believe
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everything he has done to me. Losing my
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entire family over this has also been a
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huge kick when I'm at rock bottom. Most
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of our mutual friends have distanced
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themselves from us because no one wants
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to take sides. But it's obvious they are
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all quite disgusted with the way things
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have turned out. I have no one left now.
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This story is a heartbreaking cautionary
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tale about the devastating ripple
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effects of betrayal. the allure of toxic
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relationships and the desperate, often
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self-destructive ways we try to reclaim
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It's a raw look at how easily we can be
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manipulated by our own desires for
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happiness and revenge and the profound
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cost of losing not just a partner but an
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