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Your body language sends messages before your mouth does. Author Robert Greene and negotiation expert Daniel Shapiro PhD explain the key characteristics of nonverbal power and emotional presence that shape how others perceive you.
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We are completely social animals
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Our identity is formed in our interactions with other people, of how other people look at us and how other people react to us
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We have to understand that nonverbal communication and nonverbal cues play an enormous role in our social life. A lot of human communication is nonverbal
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You're just not aware of it. There are certain nonverbal cues that indicate strength and
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power and leadership. Sitting up tall, making everybody look at you, being the center of
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attention. That kind of body language is incredibly powerful. There are other kinds of body language
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that are very weak. Someone's constantly stroking themselves, stroking their hair. indicates insecurity. Anybody can lie about themselves with words. They can say anything
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Body language, nonverbal communication, it is almost impossible to lie. I personally, I feel uncomfortable around conflict. But conflict is useful. The question is how do you
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deal with conflict most effectively What I found is that there three big barriers that we can actually overcome to have more effective arguments more effective conversations The number one thing to focus on identity
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What are the core values, the core beliefs that are feeling threatened inside of you
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as you're having that conversation with the other side? The moment your identity gets hooked in these conflicts
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all of a sudden your emotions become a hundred times more powerful. You need to know who you are and what you stand for
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The more you understand who you are, the more you can try to get your purpose met and stay balanced
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even when the other threatens those core values and beliefs. Two, appreciation
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When you're in the midst of the conflict, don't talk. Take the first 10 minutes consciously to simply listen to the other side
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Once you truly understand and see the value in their perspective, let them know, I hear where you're coming from, and you know what
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That makes sense. Third, affiliation. What's the emotional connection like between you and the other side
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Turn that other person from an adversary into a partner. So it's no longer me versus you, but the two of us facing the same shared problem
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Now you put these three things into practice. It can transform your relationships and ultimately our world
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