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Should I ever disclose to my wife that
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we are secretly worth millions of
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>> Are you from uh another culture?
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>> I was born in Korea, but I was raised
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>> So, you're raised by Korean parents that
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>> That is correct. And
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>> because in in Anglo America, [music]
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what you just described, as you probably
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realize, is pretty whacked.
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>> That's why I immediately said, is there
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some kind of a cultural [music] reason
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for this? Because it's very unusual. I
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work. My wife is a stay-at-home wife
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because that's just how we chose to. The
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thing is [music] I'm the saver and she's
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the spender. I have been working very
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hard working my [music] job in my in my
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business to just to grow to where we
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are. And I am not sure whether I should
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ever disclose our net worth to her
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because I do not know how she's [music]
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>> Yeah. Well, she's probably going to
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react poorly because she's married to a
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guy who's deceived her,
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>> don't you [clears throat] think?
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>> To be [music] honest, the thing is she
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and I have very different perspectives
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when it comes to finances.
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>> I'm a saver. Like, I'm a minimalist.
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[music] She's very much a free spirit.
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>> I know, but but that's not what I'm
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talking about. I'm talking about the
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fact that you've been married to [music]
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her for 5 years and sleeping with her
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for 5 years. Do you know you got any
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money? That's deception. [music]
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I handle all the finances and the
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>> Honey, you're not listening. You keep
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deflecting [music] every time I bring
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this at you. You have deceived your wife
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actively. She's not [music] going to be
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cool with that. You hear that?
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>> So, I understand that [music] she's
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going to be somewhat uh she is going to
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be angry. What I'm [music] more troubled
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about is is how she is going to take off
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take the news of his finances and if
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she's going to spend it.
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>> No, we got that. You're scared to death.
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>> You're scared she's going [music] to go
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spend all your money, which is the
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reason you lied to her in the first
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a quality marriage and relationship
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going into my old age cuz we've now been
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married almost 43 [music] years. I value
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that more than money. You don't. So, I'm
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having trouble connecting [music] with
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you on this. Um, I can't imagine a world
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where I would deceive my wife actively
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about any [music] major thing for five
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years about anything. Not even a major
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thing. I don't deceive her about
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anything. I'm not sure I know how to
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answer your question. I will [music]
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tell you this. I'm just the older guy
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sitting over here going, "Okay, you
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brought some culture into this [music]
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where the guy's in charge and the lady
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doesn't have any say or any vote,
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especially [music] if she's a spender."
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And so all of that combined with your uh
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nerdlike [music] paranoia has led you to
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this deception. And so um I'm giving
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[music] you a little bit of grace here,
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but I'm telling you it this is not going
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to end well. The longer you put this
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off, the worse [music] this is going to
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get. This is a weird thing you've done
