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#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories She Cheated with a Guy Her Son's Age. I Ghosted Her Completely | Wistaloom Hey everyone, and welcome back to Wistaloom! Today, we're diving deep into a saga that's going to take you on an absolute roller coaster of emotions. Grab a snack and maybe a drink, because we're unraveling a shocking true story that spans from late 2019 all the way up to just last week. This is the story of Jake and Sue, high school sweethearts who built a life together for 23 years. They had two sons, a home, and what Jake thought was an unbreakable bond. But a devastating knee injury in late 2019 became the unexpected crack in their foundation. As Jake recovered, things shifted: Sue became distant, secretive with her phone, and started working "extra hours" every single day.
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hey everyone and welcome back to Wistaloom Today we've got a story that's going to take you on a roller coaster So grab a
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snack maybe a drink because we're diving deep into a saga that spans from late 2019 all the way up to just last week
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The backstory So this story kicks off with a relationship that sounds like something out of a movie We're talking high school
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sweethearts here Our guy let's call him Jake started dating his soon-to-be ex-wife Sue way back in 1992 when they
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were just 17 Fast forward and at 45 they're still together She's the only woman he's ever
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been with They got married at 22 right after college And a year later their two boys now 22 and 17 came into their lives
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Jake poured 23 years into this marriage He built a house worked his tail off to give Sue the life she wanted And sure
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like any marriage they had their bumps in the road but they always figured it out Which is why what happened next was
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so absolutely gut-wrenching Let's jump back to March 2020 Jake starts feeling this weird vibe
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For a couple of months before that things had been off He was recovering from reconstructive knee surgery blew
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out his ACL in fall 2019 He was still limited only about 55% range of motion
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and that was hitting them hard He was on workers comp so he couldn't do his usual chores His sons helped but some things
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only he could handle or Sue had to step in and she was not happy about it And in
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the bedroom things had already slowed down before the injury but after it it
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completely stopped During these months Sue started hanging out more with co-workers after work almost every day
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from November 2019 to March 2020 Jake didn't think anything of it right
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23 years of trust They had their own friends mutual friends Everything seemed
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above board But then around January of that year something shifted Sue became
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super distant Even during their funk she'd never held back affection like this The hugs and kisses stopped Her
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phone which was always in her hand became a secret weapon She was guarded about it and even her interactions with
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Jake became snippy like he was bothering her Then March hits CO 19 arrives New
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York City goes into lockdown Jake and Sue's jobs are essential so no working from home Jake who'd just been cleared
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to return after 5 months of rehabbing his knee was itching to get back to it He's an avid martial artist hitting the
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gym 4 days a week plus all his home projects Being laid up was driving him nuts Extra hours or something else
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within a week or two of lockdown Sue tells him she'll have to start putting in extra hours Again Jake thinks nothing
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of it Her field right but it wasn't every other day It was every day and not
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just an hour or two She'd come home three or more hours later go straight to the shower spend a little time with him
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a little with their 17-year-old the 22-year-old lives across town with his girlfriend and then head straight to bed
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As Jake got more mobile on his knee things in the bedroom picked back up But he quickly noticed she wasn't mentally
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or emotionally there By early April it hit him like a ton of bricks All signs
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pointed to an affair That's when Jake decided he needed answers He started
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scouring the internet for signs of infidelity and Sue was basically checking every single box His search
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quickly turned to finding proof He started with her social media looking at old Facebook posts mostly normal stuff
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pictures of them their sons friends and quite a few of her nights out with co-workers
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In these co-orker pictures he noticed a mixed bag of her closest work friends plus a couple of people he'd never met
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But one guy kept popping up In every photo he was in he was uncomfortably close to her Arm around her shoulder
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hand on her lower back way too close for someone Jake had never even met That
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definitely left a bad taste in his mouth But that wasn't the worst part Nope The
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worst part was this guy was a Facebook friend of hers and followed her on Instagram So Jake goes to look him up on
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Facebook and what do you know he's blocked Why in the world would this random guy
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block Jake but be friends with his wife at that point Jake was in full-on Batman
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detective mode He wasn't even trying to deny it anymore He knew she was cheating
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His mission find out for how long Find out for how Over April and May that's
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exactly what he did He never realized how much info you could get from phone
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text and email records They had a family cell phone plan and he was able to pull
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up a ton of data Sue's data history was super telling
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The two most frequent numbers she interacted with from October 2019 to April 2020 were Jake's and a number he'd
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never seen before Care to guess whose number it was a quick Google search
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confirmed it The guy from the photos the one who blocked him on Facebook Let's
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call him Poos because well that's what he is The picture became even clearer
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but a lot of their messages were disjointed indicating she was deleting a lot of them Jake knew she was cheating
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but he needed more solid evidence That's when he looped in his best friend Oz
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Oz asked if he'd confronted her and Jake said no it wasn't enough That's when Oz
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told him about a spy app one that could let him see her communications in real time Jake got it installed synced up his
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data plan and waited Within days he saw it A text string between Sue and Pooh
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talking about how much fun they'd had the previous night and making plans to do it again that weekend Gut punch To
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say it was completely devastating is an understatement That moment was Jake's D-Day For the
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next 2 days he was just broken He actively distanced himself from her which she noticed She'd try to console
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him ask what was wrong but he'd just brush her off He couldn't even look at
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her This woman who he gave 23 years of his life to who he gave everything to as
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a husband and more stepped outside their marriage for a guy just 5 years older than their eldest son
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By the third day the sadness was gone replaced by pure fury
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He told Oz his suspicions were confirmed And when Oz asked if he'd confronted her Jake replied "No."
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He wanted payback beyond just divorce He wanted to thoroughly disrupt and ruin
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her life He drew inspiration from a quote he'd read about infidelity Unpredictability is the enemy
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That became the foundation of his strategy Make her life challenging while secretly planning his exit
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As early June arrived the app stayed installed Every night he meticulously gathered
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data from their messages Their exchanges painted a picture of a full-blown relationship romantic texts loving
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expressions explicit content He stopped actively reviewing the
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content focusing solely on collecting and cataloging it on his private server At the same time he started acting weird
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going out at odd times coming home later than she did In her presence he upped
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his phone usage When she asked what he was doing he'd just say "Just stuff,"
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and put his phone away He changed his login info denying her access Throughout
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their marriage transparency was the norm But around the time her affair supposedly started she'd changed her
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passwords on Facebook and her phone using recent security breaches as an excuse to hide the affair
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He briefed Oz on the plan and shared the situation with his older sister and two close friends trusting them with the
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secret Oz had been his friend since childhood and the other friends Joey and
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Na since high school Na becomes important later trust me Come July Sue
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is in full-on paranoia mode Her texts and calls intensify questioning Jake's
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whereabouts expressing concerns about his actions The seed he planted the
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previous month is starting to sprout especially evident in her communication with Pooh
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She confides in him about her doubts and confusion accusing Jake of growing cold
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and distant the audacity of this woman Amidst these interactions with Pooh she
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even suggests they should avoid meeting at their house confirming that he'd been there Thanks Sue In one specific
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exchange Pooh asks if she's worried about Jake potentially cheating on her
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This infuriates her Reading that exchange brought Jake immense joy and laughter a cheating wife arguing with
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her affair partner about the possibility of her husband cheating on her The irony is just palpable Just to clarify Jake
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wasn't involved with anyone else When he left he was usually at Oz's or Joey's
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grabbing drinks watching fights bonding with his friends or he might be at his
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big sister's house hanging out with her and her husband who's like an older brother to him His sister knew about
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Sue's infidelity but not about Jake's full plan because her hubby tends to blab Fast forward to October and things
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really intensify in Jake's fake affair For 3 months Sue is keenly aware of his
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active withdrawal From the beginning of his plan until October 20th 2020 the day
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she confronted him there was zero physical contact between them No hugs
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kisses or any initiation of intimacy Not that she needed it She was still with
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Pooh's either at his place or motel That afternoon she calls him at work an
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uncommon occurrence before all this began and asks him to come straight home after work claiming she has something
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important to tell him Jake won't lie He was half expecting her to confess But of
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course she didn't Instead he arrived home to find her questioning if he's unhappy with her The nerve She points
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out he's been spending too much time away lacking affection and their intimacy has withered She suggests he
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might be pushing her away due to resentment over how she treated him during his knee rehab months Then the
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punchline She asks if he's cheating on her Folks Jake collapsed on the floor
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laughing uncontrollably like Joker laughing gas hysterical While
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it might have seemed like he was dismissively laughing off the idea of infidelity to her he was actually
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laughing at the sheer irony unfolding before him In fits of laughter for a good 2 minutes he composed himself
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enough to respond He sat up met her eyes for the first time in months shook his head without
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giving an answer stood up brushed himself off kissed the top of her head and proceeded to settle in for the night
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Later that night in his office Jake decided to check what she'd been telling Pooh Given the brevity of the incident
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he fired up the app and they were indeed texting in real time She informs Pooh
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that she believes Jake is cheating on her She mentioned confronting him tonight describing his reaction as
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laughter She feels he doesn't care about her feelings anymore and is convinced that
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he's gone She sees it as karma and acknowledges that she has lost him
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The smile on Jake's face reading that must have resembled the Cheshure cat She was breaking Pooh tried to console her
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stating that if Jake cared enough she wouldn't have had to seek comfort from him However the tone of her responses
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indicated doubt She had the audacity to step out of their marriage during his legitimate injury keeping the affair
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going for nearly a year Yet the thought of losing Jake to another woman made her waver What a weakling Simultaneously
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Jake executed the second part of his revenge plan organizing his financial affairs In September he consulted with a
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family attorney to initiate divorce proceedings Armed with the substantial evidence he'd gathered and New York
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being an at fault state for divorce The overwhelming proof of Sue's infidelity
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pretty much ensured he could nail her in a divorce case His attorney advised him
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to organize all his financial documents in anticipation of potential asset division
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Going a step further he covertly withdrew all his funds from their joint account and transferred them to his
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personal account Additionally he started searching for an apartment as part of phase 2 Fast
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forward to November and Jake's behavior remains consistent In fact he escalated
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it This is where his friend Na becomes significant For context Na and Sue were
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never close Jake met Na two years before Sue during his freshman year of high
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school From the beginning Sue viewed Na as a threat since she's Jake's closest female friend Although Sue has never
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explicitly addressed it her mistrust of Na is evident to anyone paying attention
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Conversely Na has never been a fan of Sue Early in Jake's relationship with
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Sue Na pointed out how Sue was intruding into their friend circle while Jake didn't do the same with Sue's friends
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This bothered Na because she understood why Sue was doing it Jealousy Even now
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among Sue's circle there are no male friends except Pooh While Na is the only female in Jake's friend group Na who had
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been overseas due to the virus returned to NYC on November 3rd Oz Joey and Jake
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planned a small gathering at Joey's house with dinner and drinks sticking to CDC guidelines Na the mastermind
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proposed an idea to trigger Sue Take photos similar to those Jake discovered of Sue and Pooh months earlier and post
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them on Jake's Facebook And that's exactly what they did Sue got wind of it
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on the 5th as some friends noticed Jake's updates and observed how uncomfortably close he appeared with Na
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This thoroughly confused her because she still believed Jake was cheating Although she likely wanted to accuse Na
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she knew Na had been stuck in Europe for most of the year Nevertheless that didn't stop her from attempting to
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criticize Jake that night for being handsy in the photos Jake saw this as a
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perfect opportunity to deliver the lead jab for his knockout blow He mentioned the pictures with her and Poos from last
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year noting that he was pretty handsy in them Jake pointed out that he didn't get bent out of shape over it Deer in
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headlights It was the first time he had even mentioned the guy's name throughout all of this The gears in her head
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started spinning in real time as she tried to explain away those pictures Up to that point she hadn't known Jake had
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seen them given how infrequently he used Facebook When he did post something it became an event which is why the
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pictures with Na specifically gained so much attention among their circles and explain away she did stating that he's
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that way with everyone He's just a really friendly guy and she can see how
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it looks but there's nothing there She apologized if those photos caused him distress and offered to delete them
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However the pictures weren't what hurt him What hurt him was the fact that she
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had been involved with the guy while deceiving him claiming to be working extra hours and spending time with
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friends As Lieutenant Commander Wararf from Star Trek TNG famously said
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"Vengeance is a dish best served cold." From that night on Sue became unusually
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clingy and attentive to Jake like annoyingly so She attempted to initiate affection and intimacy but he
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stonewalled her at every opportunity Meanwhile he continued archiving
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everything she shared with Pooh By this point Jake had long since gone numb any
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desire he might have had to save his marriage was dead He had checked out the day he initiated the first phase of his
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plan She confided in Pooh that Jake had become worse expressing uncertainty and feeling like he hated her which he did
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Then comes the bombshell She couldn't see him anymore The guilt was
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overwhelming and she felt like karma was suffocating her She couldn't risk losing Jake despite loving Pooh's deeply She
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claimed to be still in love with Jake emphasizing the need to save their marriage before losing him No my dear
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you're about 8 months too late for that Pooh lost his composure proclaiming his
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love for her and insisting she was making a mistake That text chain would be their last
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until about 3 weeks ago Throughout the remainder of November into December Sue remained in limbo
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trying to gauge Jake's headsp space and uncertain if he was actually being unfaithful
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Meanwhile who's bombarded her phone daily but she didn't respond Jake observed her checking her phone
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often then quickly putting it away Meanwhile phase two of the plan was now officially complete The divorce papers
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were done He found a studio apartment in Co-op City signed a 2-year lease and all
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his money was in his personal account He was ready to throw his haymaker
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Now we're at Thanksgiving His oldest son and his girlfriend hosted a small gathering with their immediate families
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It was Jake Sue their youngest the oldest his girlfriend and her parents
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They had a great night and his oldest girlfriend who's studying to be a chef did all the cooking herself As Jake had
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to maintain the appearance of nothing being wrong between him and Sue he initiated affection with her several
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times that evening Kisses on the cheek cute hugs wrapping his arms around her shoulders from behind
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These gestures didn't go unnoticed by her and she reveled in them Keep in mind
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this was the first time he touched this woman since he kissed the top of her head the night she confronted him in October about 2 months He won't lie He
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felt repulsed doing it But he had to He couldn't risk the plan Being distant in
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front of his boys his oldest's girlfriend and her parents would raise alarms
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So their youngest decided to stay overnight with his big brother And Jake and Sue headed home On the drive home
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she thanked him for being good to her and said "I don't know what you're going through baby but I'm here for you." Jake
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had to hold off on bursting into maniacal laughter again and responded "I know I just need time." So for the first
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time realistically since springtime they had closeness that night Jake thought
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"Why not with what I'm about to do might as well get some action before I erase her from my existence." He won't go into
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detail but it wasn't love making When he finished she was a lump of flesh
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trying to figure out the direction of the truck that ran her over No cuddling or anything after He just got up
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showered and went to sleep in his office To her confusion though he used a contraceptive the first time in two
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decades She was definitely perplexed by it But she didn't ask questions He sure
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as hell wasn't going raw with her knowing that she'd been doing so with poos for months at that point He woke up
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the next day and checked his handydandy spy app and for the first time in weeks she responded to Pooh's The dude went
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full romcom professing his love for her claiming she was wasting her time trying to reignite a flame in Jake that had
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died She claimed she had been in a prison with Jake for 23 years and deserved the love and affection of a man
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who would cherish her Keep in mind this guy is 27 years old 5
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years older than their oldest son and he's infatuated with a 45-year-old married mother of two What a top-notch
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highquality catch She opted to destroy their marriage and dismantle the home they had built for this guy a pretty boy
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with a soft side In response she reiterated essentially
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the same sentiments from their previous conversation She loves him enjoyed their time together but she can't risk losing
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Jake I'm still the love of her life but she'll always have a place for him in her heart They can remain friends if he
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chooses but the physical relationship between them is over He pleaded with her to see him one last
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time that week and yes she agreed One more for the road right who is Jake to
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say anything that's what he did to her the previous night He of course added
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all of that to the archive he had compiled December 4th marked the beginning of
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phase three The final stage of operation showby ghost The divorce papers were in
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hand His new place of residence was set up And now he had to gradually start moving his stuff out of the house
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December 4th marked the beginning of phase three The final stage of operation Shobi Ghost The divorce papers were in
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hand His new place of residence was set up and now he had to gradually start moving his stuff out of the house But
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first he had to break the news to his boys He called his oldest to the house that Friday night had them join him in
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his office and laid everything on the table Not the specifics but that their mother had been cheating on him for over
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a year and he would be filing for divorce soon His 17-year-old was
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especially shaken up because he had recently experienced his first taste of infidelity His first girlfriend had
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cheated on him just 4 months prior Witnessing his heartbreak a second time at the idea that his own mother was
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capable of this hit him hard His oldest took it a lot better and suggested
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taking his brother to live with him until this blows over to which Jake agreed
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They packed up some of his stuff and he asked Jake if he was going to be okay Jake assured him that he would be all
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right and so would he He promised that they were going to be all right And then
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they were off The hardest part was now over and it was time to arm the nukes
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Over the next few weeks day by day Oz would help Jake get some of his most sensitive stuff out of the house
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He provided Oz with a list of all the definite items to grab while Sue and he were at work and left him the spare key
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These were things Sue wouldn't notice were missing unless you told her they were gone
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He also got a new phone and phone number informing everyone who needed to know Oz Joey Na his boys Big Sis and his mother
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of his new contact info Meanwhile he kept up the ruse with Sue and she was
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none the wiser He trickled bits and pieces of affection to her just to keep
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her off the trail While she was still in contact with Pooh's not to the extent they were before there was still an
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emotional connection The fog was faint but it was still there
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All the while he gathered everything and I mean everything Every bit of data he
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had archived since he started the plan Call logs texts pics emails everything
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He began making printouts He must have spent over $1,500 on Staples supplies
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printer ink paper binders the works He cataloged everything in order from the
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beginning of the affair until that last bit two weeks ago December 16th in the binders
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14 of them He boxed each one gift wrapping and addressing them to various recipients His mother his father passed
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away seven years ago Her parents her two sisters her brother her HR department He
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forgot to mention Pooh works for the same company and there's a rule against intercomp relationships due to the
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nature of her job several friends Poos and Pooh's parents He carried all those
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packages to the post office and shipped them on December 16th with an estimated delivery between December 22nd and 24th
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Perfect Now we're at Christmas Eve Sue arrived home around the usual time unaware if she had seen Poos as Jake
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stopped tracking her on the app on the 18th assuming he had gathered all the information needed She showered spent
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some time with him and he concluded the night in the living room Yes he knows he's not the nicest person
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The final phase was upon him at last The nuke he had been arming since June was about to be launched In the middle of
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the night he woke up wrapped one of the three remaining binders with the divorce papers taped to the inside cover and
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left it on his side of the bed with a note that said "Merry Christmas" next to
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it He left his old phone and his lawyer's business card He packed up the
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rest of his essential items enough to fill two backpacks and left his home where he had spent 23 years for the last
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time That my friends was one week ago To sue Jake is completely off the grid gone
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shadow ghosted She's blocked on Facebook but for some reason she hasn't blocked him so he's keeping tabs on the fallout
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It's absolutely glorious His packages have reached everyone he sent them to and Sue is facing severe backlash Her
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youngest sister completely reprimanded her Both of her parents condemned her His mom tore into her mercilessly
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Jake knows his mom has a mean streak but the things she called Sue were unfathomable
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Sue is desperately trying to find out if anyone knows where Jake is but those who do aren't saying a word on her Facebook
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feed She's desperately trying to reach him likely knowing he's probably looking but he's not saying a word to her
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without his lawyer present That'll be the next time he shares oxygen with her She has no way of
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spinning the narrative to paint him as the bad guy because he's exposed her to everyone who matters to her According to
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a mutual friend working in the same company as her she and Poose are apparently being put on administrative
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leave as of tomorrow So yeah chances are she'll be going into 2021 unemployed As
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for the final two binders one has been turned over to his lawyer as his final piece of evidence for his impending
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divorce and the last one he placed in his storage unit to be burned in Joey's fire pit when the divorce is final Does
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Jake feel guilty about this no not even in the slightest For 23 years he did
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right by this woman He gave her the home she wanted the family she wanted the
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life he felt they both deserved and he loved her unconditionally Never did he falter Never did he stray
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Never did he even entertain the notion of breaking his vows When an issue came up that he felt was
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affecting their marriage he came to her and told her and they sorted it out as best they could Instead of coming to him
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and expressing her unhappiness with their intimacy at the time she decided to seek comfort in another man's bed
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So no he has no sympathy for what he did or for her She can burn in hell for all
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he cares The most he stands to lose is his house a car and maybe a couple of hundred bucks a month in alimony Still
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considering the divorce is filed under the statute of infidelity and NYS is at fault that might get waved with the
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insurmountable amount of evidence he's provided As far as he's concerned she's dead to
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him and he's never looking back Initially after discovering her infidelity he pondered how to salvage
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the situation However witnessing the audacity of their interactions in subsequent
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communications fueled his anger What started as regret and sadness
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quickly transformed into fury When he confided in his friend Oz he had
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already decided to take a scorched earth approach Unexpectedly he continued this approach
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longer than he anticipated He could have confronted her four to 5 months before Christmas but he confesses
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that he derived pleasure from making her suffer It turned into a game and the prize was
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watching her squirm While this may make him seem somewhat sadistic she destroyed their marriage and he was determined to
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dismantle her relationships with everyone they knew Despite not being inherently evil or vindictive he firmly
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believes in treating others fairly and adhering to the golden rule However he
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cannot tolerate disrespect His soon-to-be ex-wife is a fragile superficial self-entitled individual who
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prioritized her desires over their marriage She will receive no forgiveness or mercy from him The upcoming months
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will be challenging as his divorce unfolds marked by hurtful words and spiteful actions
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Nevertheless he will remain steadfast in his mission to ruin her offering no pity
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or leniency just as she showed him none when she broke her vows
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This battle is far from over but his determination surpasses hers He is
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determined to break her and leave her with nothing feeling no remorse in doing so Christmas Day marked the first full
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day Jake spent in his new apartment a work in progress where he plans to reside for at least 2 years Although he
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still needs to acquire more items he has overall transformed it into his home His
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sons along with the eldest's girlfriend spent a significant part of the day with him The girlfriend brought treats and
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prepared a delightful meal It provided an opportunity to engage in meaningful conversations with his sons a connection
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he hadn't experienced in a long time His older sister also visited bringing more
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goodies and spending time with them marking the first time she had seen her nephews in nearly a year Their presence
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had a positive impact on him Otherwise he might have resorted to excessive drinking if alone Everyone left around
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8:00 p.m prompting him to decide to hang out with Joey and his wife Claudia They spent a couple of hours together
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had a couple of drinks and then he returned home The next significant development occurred on December 29th
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2020 around midday He received a text from Na asking if he
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was busy that night Since he wasn't they agreed to meet after he finished work
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They went to a nearby diner for indoor dining at 25% capacity Na openly shared
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her feelings confessing that she has liked him since their teenage years but never had the chance to express it due
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to Sue entering the picture Jake has known Na longer than Sue by 2 years and
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she has been a part of his social circle with Oz and Joey in high school They were the social outcasts the raver kids
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who didn't fit into conventional clicks back then Na faced challenges with weight and
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diabetes but they always had chemistry Nowadays Na is a personal trainer and
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yoga instructor having transformed into a beautiful swan In short they decided that upon the finalization of his
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divorce they will start seeing each other Yes they slept together that night and Jake feels no shame Na has been a
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better friend to him than Sue ever was That's not to say Sue wasn't his best friend But over the near quarter century
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he's known Na She has consistently supported him even stepping back from
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her own feelings to allow him to pursue a life with Sue This selflessness
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resonated with him in ways he didn't anticipate Despite sounding like he's justifying the decision in his head to him it was
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the right choice and he plans on exploring what the future holds with Na with total commitment Now on to
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yesterday the day Jake met his wife and her lawyer to discuss the divorce It has
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been 2 weeks since he ceased communication with his soon-to-be ex-wife This Monday he received a call
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from his lawyer informing him that Sue's attorney scheduled a meeting to discuss divorce terms on January 6th 2021
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Yesterday he met with his lawyer to outline his desired terms an uncontested
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divorce citing marital neglect from Sue In summary he proposed a complete
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division of assets selling his half of the house to her and keeping their respective vehicles
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He retains ownership of his cabin in the Poconos and under the grounds of marital neglect she will not receive spousal
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support from him Regarding his son 17 he is free to choose his residence post
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divorce likely with Jake On Wednesday he dressed in his Johnny Cash best and
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attended a meeting at his lawyer's office with his wife and her lawyer She appeared disheveled and barely held it
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together Without delving into legal jargon her lawyer presented terms for reconciliation which Jake promptly
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rejected They agreed to a legal separation leading to an uncontested divorce The only revision is that he
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will provide $1,53 per month in temporary spousal support to cover utilities until she gains
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employment She got fired for inappropriate behavior This support will last up to a year post finalization
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financially It won't significantly impact him Even if she takes time finding a new job after a full calendar
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year post divorce finalization she is on her own It's a small price to pay for
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freedom If all goes smoothly he'll be free of her by early April approximately
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3 months from now Post meeting his lawyer provided final words and promised to keep him updated on the filing
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progress Outside Sue approached him asking if they could talk He agreed
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While she held it together during the meeting she broke down outside expressing remorse and stating she never
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intended for things to go as far as they did She admitted to falling in love with
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someone else but acknowledged the wrongdoing in betraying her husband
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She asked for forgiveness and proposed the idea of starting a new in a few years Jake informed her that this would
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be their last conversation He reminded her that their son is almost an adult capable of making his own
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choices He conveyed that he had given half of his life and unconditional love only for
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her to confess love to someone else He expressed the impossibility of forgiving her stating that he loved who
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she once was but despised who stood before him He made it clear that seeing
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her again would be too soon Here they are on the sidewalk in Midtown Manhattan
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with her causing a scene crying her eyes out A couple of people walked by giving
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side glances But at that point Jake didn't care He wasn't about to publicly
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offend her He had already socially and professionally destroyed her However he
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needed to release the last bit of emotion he had for her He finished by telling her that he didn't regret the 23
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years he spent as her husband His regret was that in those 23 years she chose the
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easy way out and he thought she was his when in reality it was just his turn
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Putting in his raycons he turned around and walked away Later that night her father called and apologized He
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commended Jake for always being a good man to his daughter and expressed his disappointment in her actions Jake will
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miss the old man He's been his default father figure since his dad passed away years ago
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However he can't see himself maintaining a relationship with anyone on her side of the family After that call Jake went
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on Facebook and symbolically changed his relationship status to divorced
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It's not final yet but in his eyes it's over When he makes a post on Facebook it's an
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event so plenty of people started reaching out over Messenger asking questions He laid it all out stating
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that he filed for divorce with Sue earlier in the day Na called shocked at how fast he pulled the trigger He asked
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her to come over and she did They spent the night together talking into the wee hours of the morning
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He hasn't felt this level of relief and connection in a really long time Na gets him and he can't get enough of
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being around her Since the day she confided in him she's all that's been on his mind Some might say it's messed up
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that he's moving on so fast but as far as he's concerned his marriage ended the day Pooh's let Sue touch him So he's
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about done So that's it His divorce is in the works and he's moving on to start
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a relationship with Na They'll take it slow and won't announce anything until the divorce with Sue is legal and
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official As for Sue he couldn't care less about what happens to her She could
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move in with Poose into their old home for all he cares He'll be getting his money for the house
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over 2021 in quarterly installments And apart from the $653 he'll pay her
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monthly he never has to see or speak to her again Since only his closest friends two sons
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older sister and mother have his new contact info and he's completely blocked his soon-to-be ex-wife on all social
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outlets She has had no means of reaching him since he left her on Christmas Eve Still some of their mutual friends do
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Last night Jake is in his apartment and he receives a voice call notification on Messenger from one of these friends One
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of the few who hadn't abandoned her following his outing of her affair She didn't waste any time when he answered
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saying she had checked on Sue and found her passed out in the bedroom foaming at the mouth with two bottles of empty
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pills next to her She's in the ICU in critical but stable condition The doctor
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said she will likely pull through but she won't be well after She begged and
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pleaded for Jake to come Her parents and two of her sisters were also at the hospital
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Jake's guess is they were notified after the hospital attempted to reach him But Sue would still have his old number as
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her emergency contact He simply told her no Sue is not his problem anymore and she
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decided to take the easy way out rather than deal with the shame and agony of the 23-year marriage she blew up
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He then told her friend that if Sue's family was there they could help her sort out the pieces But as far as Sue
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and he are concerned there is no Sue and I anymore He then ended the call Jake had a few
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hours to reflect on it and his sons called him this morning to ask if he knew He affirmed that he did but also
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made it clear to both of them that if they want to be there and supportive of their mother he won't hold it against
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them or judge them After all she is their mother However he personally
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washes his hands of her and cares little to nothing about what she does to or for herself anymore They were takenback by
39:20
this but they respected his stance Now that the news has broken about her self-destruction attempt many friends
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who had distanced themselves from her are resurfacing urging him to support her in her time of need despite what she
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did to him He's been informed that her affair partner tried to visit her this morning
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but wasn't allowed because he's not family Jake is being pressured to go see her but he feels nothing for this woman
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anymore He hasn't for a very long time He checked out during the process of
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getting his payback for her betrayal And he stands by the fact that he doesn't care at all for what she's done In fact
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it makes him hate her even more She's the one who was unfaithful who thought a
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near year-long fling with a guy 5 years older than her oldest son was worth destroying 23 years Even now facing the
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consequences of her choices she chooses the most selfish way of dealing with it
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Now that she's likely to survive she's garnered immediate sympathy from everyone who took her to task and he's
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being portrayed as the jaded ex-husband unwilling to sympathize by most of her family except her dad who reached out
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and said he respects his decision to stay away It's like Jake never truly knew this woman in 23 years and it has
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come to this He understands that the way he broke things off may have put her in a poor mental state but a whole new set
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of issues has arisen Either she had a complete breakdown and decided to damage herself or she made a risky calculated
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move to gain favor back from those who condemned her weeks ago for betraying him Jake wants to be perfectly clear He
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is not going to visit Sue She waved her right to his care when she let her lover
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put himself inside her He may come off as heartless but despite his calm demeanor his feelings are still very raw
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He doesn't care about this woman and hasn't for a long time If you were in his shoes you'd see her
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actions differently Maybe tormenting her for months fooling her into thinking he
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was cheating on her while she cheated on him and destroying her socially and professionally led to her meltdown
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Maybe he is a heartless sociopath but as Arthur Flex said "You get what you deserve." He gave this woman half of his
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life and did everything to be the best husband she could ever have By her own admission he had no bearing
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on her decision to betray their marriage She did it for her and her selfishness
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knows no bounds He's glad to be rid of her If it makes him the bad guy because
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he won't see her and never plans on interacting with her again so be it He
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holds true to his convictions She made the choice to betray him to put her
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needs above the needs of our marriage So now it's his turn to choose him over everything else She can rot in the
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darkest pit of hell for all he cares Let everyone else help her fix herself His
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obligation to care about her well-being ended the day they signed the separation agreement He just needed to get this off
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his chest If you're going to cast judgment on him for feeling this way save it After 23
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years and two children he never really knew this woman and he has no sympathy for her nor will he ever let her rot
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He's been informed by Sue's dad that she's been moved from the ICU to the mental health wing Doctors are still
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monitoring her mental state She's conscious and cognitive again but obviously lethargic
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Her father told him she asked if he came to see her and he said no after which she shut down
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He respectfully said any further news he'll share only if Jake inquires understanding the headsp space Jake is
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in Also he scheduled counseling for 17 with the first consultation this coming
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Monday Today against everything he previously stated Jake decided to visit
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Sue She's been out of the hospital for 4 days now and surprisingly it was Na who
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convinced him that seeing her in her weakened state might help him let go of the contempt he feels for her Around 6
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p.m he called her for the first time since he served her Her hello lacked the brightness he'd known for over two
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decades Her voice was hoarse and weak The moment she heard his voice she began
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crying taking almost 3 minutes to regain composure enough to talk again
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Before she could say anything he informed her that he was coming to see her by 8:00 p.m and she agreed
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It's about an hour and a half from Co-op City where his new apartment is to his old home He grabbed a bite to eat from
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the local pizzeria and started on his way there He arrived around 7:47 p.m and
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she was already at the door before he pulled into the driveway As he approached he could see the toll
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her actions had taken on her Noticeably thinner an unhealthy kind of thin As a
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whole she looked like The Walking Dead The first thing she tried was to come in for a hug and he stopped her cold She
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got the hint that he wasn't there to console her and backed off immediately They went inside and sat in the living
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room Almost immediately Sue told him she wanted to come clean about everything
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She explained that she couldn't live with the guilt of what she did to him and the boys
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Since the day they signed the separation agreement she went into a downward spiral of guilt and agony that led to
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her self-destruction attempt Her friend the one who called him from the hospital
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had noticed her behavior and started coming over to check on her She said the
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doctors told her that if she hadn't been found just an hour earlier she would have succeeded Sue admitted to failing
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him as a wife falling for Poose was wrong as was her choice not to pull back when she knew she was getting too deep
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She also apologized for sharing many intimate details of their marriage and speaking ill of him to him
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She never imagined herself being capable of doing that but she was She believed
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in her head that she was doing the right thing But when she thought Jake was cheating it hit her like a ton of bricks
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The feeling of betrayal was suffocating and she had to get out as soon as possible but it was obviously too late
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by then She then asked him at what point he stopped caring to which he replied that the night she confronted him with
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the notion of him cheating with the knowledge that she had been with Poose for months at that point he lost all
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respect for her and it solidified his resolve to enact his plan She told him
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that when she woke up on Christmas morning and found the gift he left she was over the moon until she opened it
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When she realized what it was and how much he had known she literally went mad
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and hasn't set foot in their bedroom since She was frantically trying to find out if anyone knew where he was But when
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she went on Facebook to ask she started getting thrashed by friends and family about what she had done with no idea how
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everyone knew so fast That's when he told her about the other binders The look of shock on her face
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was priceless It all dawned on her that Jake did this to her Everything she's
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gone through her friends turning on her her family shaming her and even her losing her job was his doing
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She fell silent and shut down after that Jake took the time to use the bathroom and it was in shambles The mirror was
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broken her skin care products were scattered and the tub looked like it hadn't been cleaned since they took her
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to the hospital When he came back to the living room she had her face in her hands weeping And he
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can honestly say he felt nothing No more anger no more rage and absolutely not a
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shred of pity They say the opposite of love is indifference Looking at her
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that's all he felt She gazed up at him uttering "I messed everything up I
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ruined us and I have no idea what to do I can't do this by myself."
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He reminded her she has her family the friend who found her and their sons but not him She never will ever again He
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explained that he came to offer closure from the ordeal she just put herself through But the moment he exits that
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door he won't be looking back The topic of Poos arises shortly after She
47:45
discloses that he contacted her 2 days ago They talked for a couple of hours
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and it concluded with her advising him to move on with his life find someone younger and forget she exists
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The rest of the conversation involves Sue apologizing for betraying Jake and questioning if this is truly the end He
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looked her directly in the eyes without hesitation and affirmed that yes it's been over long before he served the
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divorce notice on Christmas Sensing it was time to leave no more words were
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exchanged He departed leaving her on the couch He
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closed the door behind him got into his car and drove home He needed to express this while it's
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fresh in his head The saga of Sue is over 17 and Jake are
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both scheduled for counseling in the coming weeks Na and Jake are still going strong adhering to the plan of keeping
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things under wraps until his divorce is final He's staying active motivated and looking forward to a future with a woman
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he knows will cherish and honor him as she has done from the shadows for decades It's time for him to focus on
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the life ahead of him Update: It's been just over 2 months since he served his wife divorce papers and it's been a
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month since his last update Many people have expressed concern about 17 his youngest son
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Just days after his last update he began individual counseling Jake accompanied
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him for his first two sessions and he has been going on his own for every session since He attends twice a week
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and it has significantly helped Overall he's doing fine but Jake can see that
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his trust in relationships has been completely shattered The lasting effects
49:31
of his own experience with infidelity coupled with dealing with his mother's actions of cheating and her attempted
49:36
ending have left a significant scar that Jake believes may take decades to heal
49:42
He discovered that his experience was even worse than he let on He actually caught his ex-girlfriend making out with
49:48
a guy he thought was a friend But it turned out the guy was only getting close to him to get to her
49:55
He never told Jake this aspect of his breakup Jake's heart breaks for his son to have had to experience this at such a
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pivotal point in his formative years You do all you can to protect your children
50:08
but then life goes ahead and says no He has decided to stick to individual
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counseling for the long term and Jake has assured him that he can talk to him about anything without any boundaries
50:20
Next up is Jake's individual counseling If you've listened to most of his entries you know he has a bit of an
50:26
anger problem It's strange because he's always been a reserved controlled and stoic man However this whole experience
50:34
evidently awakened a sleeping dragon in him that's a pure fire breather
50:39
He's discussed everything with his therapist And when he says everything he means everything
50:45
When he explained the extent of what he did to his ex his therapist was both impressed and appalled which wasn't the
50:52
reaction Jake was expecting Apparently he displays sociopathic tendencies when
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provoked which doesn't surprise him given everything he did His sessions are not so much dramatic They're more
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organizational Unpacking all of the things going on in his head regarding the implosion of his marriage and trying
51:09
to find balance Now for the elephant in the room Nah Jake has no idea where he'd
51:16
be without this woman He never expected to have such a caring empathetic nurturing woman by his side to carry him
51:22
through all of this They are still going strong And despite their attempts to keep their ongoing relationship under
51:29
wraps it's pretty much out in their group She just gets him She always has
51:35
since they were teens And since she knows the pain of having the person you've invested your life in to cheat on
51:40
you as well she does all she can to help him cope with his feelings They split time between staying at her place and
51:47
his own The discussion has come up about moving in with each other but her 5-year-old puts a kibos on that idea
51:55
Jake's place isn't big enough for three people and he's locked into his lease until 2022
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So for now they'll keep splitting time When her daughter is away with her father Nas at Jake's place When she has
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her daughter he's at hers Speaking of her daughter Jake absolutely adores her
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and she's taken a shine to him He wishes he could find the words to truly put
52:19
into perspective how important Na has been to him through all of this If you haven't taken the time to listen
52:25
to his previous entries Na has secretly been in love with him since they were sophomores in high school But she was an
52:32
ugly duckling back then who thought she had no chance with him She actively sat
52:38
by and watched him chase after date and marry his soon-to-be ex-wife Sue knowing
52:43
how she felt for well over 25 years She held this secret until a week after
52:49
he had his divorce hearing where they met for food and she laid everything on the table Jake considers himself lucky
52:55
to have her in his life They constantly talk about what the future holds between them As they've both been burned by
53:02
marriage they're definitely not going that route but they have discussed a civil union
53:08
They'll probably wait a little while before going that route but it's pretty much decided between the two of them
53:14
that they are it for each other Last but not least the soon-to-be ex-wife Sue
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What Jake wants to share with everyone about her is well there's nothing to share Since the final time he spoke to
53:26
her after her attempted ending he's implemented a 100% no contact policy He
53:32
has no knowledge of her current situation or activities and he has no desire to find out In his perspective
53:39
she's no longer a part of his life That pretty much covers it Life moves forward
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It's March 2nd as he types this So there's only one more month until the completion of the filing process By this
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time next month he'll officially be a free man and he's eagerly counting down the days until he can genuinely embark
54:00
on the next chapter of his life Just to clarify a point Jake made an error in his statement regarding being clinically
54:06
diagnosed as a sociopath He assumed that because his therapist mentioned he displays sociopathic tendencies when
54:12
provoked it was a clinical diagnosis It wasn't It was simply his professional
54:19
observation Also his oldest son 22 doesn't genuinely
54:24
intend to cause damage to Pooh His remarks were made in the heat of anger Update on April 13th Just one month ago
54:33
Sue officially became his ex-wife Initially his lawyer informed him that
54:39
it would be finalized on the 18th but due in part to the reopening of things in NYC with a decrease in CO cases it
54:46
was pushed through a few days earlier Jeff his lawyer called him on April 12th
54:52
and requested that he visit him the following day When he did he handed Jake
54:57
the finalization notice and shook his hand Jake couldn't just leave it at that
55:03
so he went in and gave him a hug expressing gratitude for all he'd done for him On his way home all he could do
55:10
was replay mental movies of everything the last 24 years of his life memories
55:15
and history When he stepped into his apartment it finally happened He fell on the floor
55:21
and all the compressed emotion came pouring out He hasn't cried like that in ages but it
55:28
wasn't a sad cry not by any means His soul felt liberated after being held in
55:33
the deepest darkest abyss That night he made a phone call to his 22-year-old
55:39
He kept it short saying that it's finalized and his mother and he are no longer married as of that day He asked
55:45
how Jake felt Jake's sure he could tell in his voice he'd been crying and he told him he was fine
55:52
Next 17 got on the phone and they spoke for nearly 90 minutes 22 and his fiance
55:58
have been looking after him well and he like Jake is still going to therapy
56:03
Jake won't go into detail about their conversation but he will say there's still a lot of work to be done
56:09
especially regarding his view of relationships Later that night Na came to see him as she always does and he
56:16
shared the news She wrapped her arms around his waist and held tight as yes he cried again
56:23
Once he composed himself Na assured him that no matter what she would never betray him and loves him with all her
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heart Every word of it is true While Jake doesn't regret the life he built
56:36
with Sue and appreciates the two strong sons she gave him it's clear to him now that he picked the wrong woman In the
56:44
last 4 and 1/2 months Na has given so much without asking for anything in return All she asks is for him to be
56:51
there for her He won't dwell on her for too long but she truly is his hero
56:56
Following the divorce finalization some other interesting events occurred Notably Poose reached out to Jake Yes he
57:05
actually sent him a message Jake believes he suffered enough His first
57:10
action was to apologize for his role in all of this He explained the consequences of the binder Jake sent to
57:16
his mother Essentially he's been excommunicated from his family His
57:21
devout Catholic mother who attends church 3 days a week was enraged to learn that her son had broken up a
57:28
marriage that lasted almost a quarter century She kicked him out that very day
57:33
and within a week his employer after receiving the binder fired him as well
57:38
He's been couch hopping and searching for a new job ever since He mentioned that he wanted to reach out to Jake on
57:45
social media You know all the places he blocked him when avoiding Sue but he admitted he was afraid because in his
57:51
words if I was able to find him before I could find him again Jake confesses he
57:57
could have gone allin on destroying this guy but he refrained He inquired about the last time he saw
58:03
Sue and he admitted it had been months The last time he spoke to her Sue advised him to forget about her and move
58:10
on with his life consistent with what Sue told Jake Jake asked a few more
58:15
questions and surprisingly the guy was forthcoming perhaps seeking penance for the chaos he caused Much of what he said
58:23
aligned with information from the text documentation Jake gathered He didn't respond much he asked and he answered
58:31
The conversation lasted about 20 minutes before he reiterated his apology
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That's when Jake delivered this message You're a 27-year-old man who has to live the rest of your life knowing that your
58:42
own mother now loathes you for breaking up a marriage almost as long as you've been breathing I know you've messaged me
58:48
because karma is eating at you but I won't give you closure When I was 27 I
58:54
was building a legacy Right now you're a homeless jobless home wrecker If you're
59:00
smart you'll learn from this lesson If not you'll stay a screw-up until you're my age assuming you make it that far I'd
59:07
wish you luck but you don't need luck You need to get your crap in order
59:13
With that Jake ended the conversation and blocked him It may not be the closure he sought and
59:19
Jake could have been more hostile but he believes those words will haunt him enough The next significant event is
59:25
that as of May 4th 2021 Na is now Jake's wife Over the last 2 months they've had
59:32
lengthy discussions about their future Na made it clear that she has no intentions of being with anyone else and
59:39
desires to be Jake's wife urging him to adopt her daughter Anna as his own Anna
59:45
who just turned six idolizes him And Jake's the first father figure she's had since her biological father left when
59:51
she was four Na has been cautious about introducing any man into Anna's life unless they had staying power And Jake
59:59
with experience raising children fit the bill Anna and Jake 17-year-old have developed a close bond resembling a big
1:00:06
brother and little sister dynamic which Jake's therapist views as a positive sign Despite 17's shattered innocence he
1:00:13
sees innocence in Anna that he wants to protect So they decided last Monday to go to city hall and get married It took
1:00:20
24 hours to get the marriage license and the reveal was the most uneventful ever
1:00:25
Oz mentioned as if no one didn't see this coming and Big Sis said "Now
1:00:30
placing bets on when the now expecting post goes up They thought they were keeping their
1:00:36
relationship under wraps but apparently everyone had figured it out already This woman has professed her undying
1:00:42
unconditional love for Jake laying in his arms and expressing happiness She
1:00:48
shared her feelings about him over the past 25 years even during her marriage to Sue
1:00:54
She lamented that Sue won and admitted to occasional thoughts of having an affair with Jake
1:01:00
Despite that throughout all the years he's known her she has given him so much
1:01:06
and asked so little in return Even the woman he married and had two children
1:01:11
with has never shown the amount of love to him that Na has It would be foolish not to give her his name So now she has
1:01:18
it And they're in the early stages of paperwork for him adopting Anna And lastly there's Sue
1:01:25
Jake hasn't communicated with her since his last visit to their marital home nearly 4 months ago However mutual
1:01:31
friends the few that remain occasionally provide him with updates Through one of those friends a realtor
1:01:38
he learned that she sold the house and he offered her a position as a clerical assistant in his firm waving the
1:01:45
assistant payments Jake had to make due to her unemployment She now resides in a small apartment close to his office
1:01:51
which he also helped arrange She's functional but a mere semblance of her former self Her weight gain has been
1:01:59
minimal and she keeps to herself focusing on her work and avoiding socializing with anyone but him likely
1:02:05
due to the origins of the issue beginning with her socializing with co-workers The last update Jake received
1:02:11
about her was at the end of March where he expressed gratitude to him for looking out for her but made it clear he
1:02:17
no longer needed updates She's no longer his concern As 17 approaches legal
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adulthood in a year Jake has no reason to engage with her again and he won't And that concludes his journey of
1:02:30
betrayal revenge attempted ending and mental agony After this he's retreating
1:02:36
back into the swamp to live with his new frog wife and her little tadpole December 24th marked the 2-year
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anniversary of the night Jake served divorce papers to his ex and left her for good
1:02:47
Much has transpired since then and as he reflects on where his life was compared to where he is now it amazes him that
1:02:55
he's still standing A lesser man might have crumbled under the weight of all he experienced Two crucial factors
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compelled him to persevere Firstly his youngest son needed him to set an example of standing up for
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oneself and not allowing a partner to walk all over you or control the narrative
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At the time of D-Day he had experienced being cheated on by his first girlfriend
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The idea of his own mother doing the same to him akin to what his ex-girlfriend did to him significantly
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affected him Secondly there's his now girlfriend Na whom he's known for 25 years She had
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been in his life before his ex Sue Over the course of everything he discovered that Na had harbored feelings
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for him since our teenage years but never mustered the courage to confess
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When Sue entered the picture Na stepped back and let him go However she has
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loved him from the shadows ever since Witnessing his struggles she felt it was
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time to reveal her feelings and they've been together ever since Life has moved forward Na and Jake are now living
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together in a civil union enjoying all the benefits of marriage without the associated headaches In the unlikely
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event they decide to part ways they simply break the contract and go their separate ways with what they brought to
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the union No lawyers no messy paperwork He doubts that day will come Na was
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previously married with a now six-year-old daughter They both agreed from the start never to marry again
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leading them to pursue the civil union route His sons and her daughter are inseparable when together His boys
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revealed their desire for a little sister and she has seamlessly filled that role The relationship between her
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and 18 has blossomed into the classic big brother little sister dynamic which brings Jake immense joy There was a
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point where he feared 18 would shut himself off completely But thanks to therapy and their discussions he has
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come full circle He remains a bit shy around girls his age and Jake's not pressuring him He'll get back on track
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when he's ready 23 and his fiance are now officially married as of August this year The wedding was remarkable mostly
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funded by her parents despite Jake's insistence on contributing Her father with whom Jake's developed a
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good friendship was well aware of the divorce circumstances and assured him that he and his wife would cover all
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expenses Sue Jake's ex-wife attended the wedding
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23 is on better terms with his mother than 18 who hasn't communicated with her since the upheaval began It's his choice
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and Jake won't force him to maintain a relationship or communication until he's ready
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Seating arrangements were made to avoid them laying eyes on each other though Jake did catch a glimpse of her or
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what's left of her The woman he saw wasn't the one he married She looked frail and weak
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The divorce evidently took a hefty toll on her In his heart he wanted to feel pity but there was absolutely nothing
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there Na at one point grabbed his arm tightly and asked if he was okay He
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assured her he was fine and that today was about his son becoming a husband nothing more Continuing from that Jake
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received perhaps the best news when they went to 23 and his wife's place for Thanksgiving She's a chef and lives for
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big events Jake is going to be a grandpa His wife was one and a half months
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pregnant at the time After dinner Jake shared a congratulatory cigar with his son and
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they had an extensive man-to-man talk the first since it all started He
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confided in Jake that he was nervous mentioning that he wouldn't know what to do if something similar happened to him
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Jake advised him that you can't force anyone to be loyal emphasizing that you only control yourself and how you handle
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such situations It's how you handle it that defines you
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Soft times make you happy Hard times make you aware Jake doesn't think he has anything to
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worry about His wife admires him and she has been by his side through it all He
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cherishes her for keeping his son focused and on track as a good woman should for her man The gender reveal is
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next month and Jake secretly hopes it's a girl On the home front Na and Jake are in the early stages of discussing the
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possibility of him adopting her little girl and her taking his name Although she currently has her father's
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last name he has been out of the picture since she was one making zero attempts to make contact They don't even know if
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he's still alive and he's definitely not in the US anymore Na was born here but
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is of Albanian descent Her ex was born in Albania and had dual citizenship He's
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likely back in Albania and they will never see him again Nothing is definite
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but Na has made it clear she doesn't want her daughter to carry her ex's name
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And that's it Jake has been living his life one day at a time working hard and
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spending time with the love of his life and her darling daughter Life goes on To all of you in the darkness questioning
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if it ever ends and if you will heal from betrayal the answer is yes
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Commit yourself to not letting the darkness consume you You mean too much to too many people to let that happen
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Reach out to those who love and care for you Walking the path of recovering from infidelity alone is a fool's errand No
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good comes of it Put your faith in those who will support you As for your
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cheating partner expose the truth once you have it Find proof Protect your
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heart and assets Plan your exit strategy and make the truth known
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Never let them control the narrative accept gaslighting or succumb to blameshifting
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Trust your instincts If your gut says something is wrong find out the truth
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Never ignore the red flags When wearing rosecolored glasses they're impossible to see What a story right let me know
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what you think down in the comments below Have you ever been through something similar how did you handle it
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