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My partner's 21 and my daughter's 16
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I'm five years older than my stepdaughter. The age gap between me and Mark is 23 years
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Well done, you normally say 24. The thing about being online that I hate the most
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I think it's honestly just the judgment. Oh, Mark's a sugar daddy. You're literally just with Mark for the money
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You're bummy, you don't work. I just think it's sad that they think it's okay to do that. Yeah
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You just think, who would sit there and think of something nasty and take the effort to write it and send it
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Is the age gap ever an issue? Are you happy? Yeah. On the weekends, we definitely like to get out of the house and go for a walk
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I mean, the kids don't love it the best, but get some fresh air. My name's Ellie and I'm a 21-year-old stepmum and this is my boyfriend, Mark
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So we first met back in 2021 after a night out. Cut a long story short, a friend gave us his number to take us out for some food
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I ended up ringing Mark and I've never met him. I didn't actually know him and he ended up picking us up
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and we ended up getting together in March 2022. The age gap between me and Mark is 23 years
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Well done, you normally say 24 I've got two children, Marcus and Isabel
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So Isabel is 16 and Marcus is 12 So Marcus, what is Ellie like as a step mum
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So Ellie as a step mum is actually quite good Because since she's young and not in her 30s or 40s
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She's quite energetic and can relate to me more Because she's just young
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She's not an old lady Yeah, she's just more into baking and fun activities
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Ellie as a step mum Well, she's like my best friend, like with little gossips
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does my makeup, does my hair, she's like building best friends. Yeah, Mark's just fun, he likes to have a laugh, she's dead cheeky and Izzy is..
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Izzy is a diva. She is. She's just your typical girl, but they're great kids
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Me and Mark were together for a good few months before I did meet the children. I was so nervous
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It felt like meeting your partner's parents for the first time. When I first met Elliot, it was a little bit awkward
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because we were at the back of the car and we were on our way to Alton Towers and it was just a little bit weird and I kind of thought it was I didn know if it was my dad friend or girlfriend and I wasn really sure When I first met Ellie I don know yeah it was a bit awkward I was like don know never met him before
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I think we didn't speak for the whole car, Jenny. It was quite awkward. Very long tune, our parents
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Yeah, literally. As soon as we got there, we ended up having such a good time and it broke the ice amazingly
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So when we all moved in together, I was a bit apprehensive at first. We've lived together since about March 2022, is it, Al
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I think. Yeah, I think. Moved yourself in. When me and Mark and the kids all first lived together
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we were actually living in an apartment, so it was a... Very squash. It was very squash
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the kids were sharing a bedroom. We've literally only just moved into this house now. Obviously
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it was a bit of a culture change for the kids and everyone living together, but yeah, we all got
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on really well, didn't we, Al? So what did your family and friends think when you told you were
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moving in together? So when we moved in together, we never actually officially... There's no official
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Yeah, there was no official date, so I think our friends and family kind of just watched it happen with us
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Like, I'd slowly just bring more clothes around. And then it ended up being my whole entire wardrobe, and my whole entire bedroom was just in your apartment
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With my family, when me and Mark first got together, at the start, I think they were quite shocked with his age
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I think a lot of people looking in would be. But as soon as time passed, I think they saw that I'm happy, we're in a happy, healthy relationship, and I'm living my great life
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So honestly, all they care about is that. and from your side Mark. So we met through friends
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and obviously they didn't really mind. They obviously knew Ellie beforehand and obviously the lads
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you know what they're like, they give you a bit of a tease and obviously she's younger and stuff but everyone accepted it perfectly fine
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The age gap I don't think is ever really, you can't even really notice it can you? And people always ask it all the time
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and I always think that if the age gap wasn't even there we wouldn't even know that there was an age gap would you really
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I don't think the age gap's an issue because we were friends first. So I think that I got to know Mark as a person
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before I ended up getting with him. So we started posting about our family online
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around about December, 2023. We have had a lot of mixed responses regarding our content
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I think especially now it mostly supported At the beginning people were skeptical weren they And obviously they watched family grow and you know seeing our day life people have sort of gotten more invested in it haven they really
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They're like, along for the journey, aren't they? We have a laugh at the comments, don't we? I mean, I don't really care
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We're both thick-skinned, aren't we? If we were, we could be in a relationship, could we, really
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You done? Yeah. Right. Shall we have a look at the comments to see what's new
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Yeah, come on. We do like to do this because we like to have a look
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and see what everyone's... No, and similar, but also to see what anyone's thinking
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answering questions. We do like to be active on our social medias. Obviously, with posting online, of course, you get judgment
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90% of the hate is to do with our age gap. Your typical comments saying, like, old man or
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oh, Mark's your sugar daddy. You're literally just with Mark for the money. You're bummy, you don't work
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If you didn't pay for everything, you wouldn't be there. Yeah. I get TikTok up and just sit there and go through them
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and I just go through the profiles, find someone, and then go onto their profile, and then see something where they're sort of contradicting themselves
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The thing about being online that I hate the most, I think, is honestly just the judgement
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I just think it's sad that they think it's okay to do that. Yeah. You know, just think, who would sit there and think of something nasty
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then take the effort to write it and send it? And obviously there's something missing from your life, isn't there? Because I couldn't bother doing that, could you
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At the end of the day, long as we're happy, that's all that matters. Yeah, yeah. So me and Izzy spend a lot of time chatting, have a nice little gossip
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It's great because it's like having a friend in the house all the time. How would you describe your relationship
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Our relationship is, I know Izzy's deepest, darkest secret, so if you've ever annoyed Izzy, I know
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I know about it, do you know what I mean? Yeah. Luckily, we do have a really close relationship
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as much as we have a friend relationship, like, I am there for her. I'd describe Ellie as chaotic, very cool, got a good dress scent
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stylish, pretty, icon. I didn't pay her to say that. Ellie's younger than all my friends' mums
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for anything she's probably younger than their sisters. But like, is that not just like cool mum vibes
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That is cool mum vibes Yeah like I known as the coolest that mum around here You literally are everyone loves your TikTok I think we not filmed a TikTok together for a while now have we But I think the classic get ready with me is what we like to film
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We always do well when we film them together. What do you enjoy about being a stepmom to a teenager
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It is honestly so fun. I know a lot of people like to say, like, I'm wasting away my young years
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But I see it as I've got my head down. I've got a great life ahead of me
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And I'm having a great time. I think I did a great job. You did
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Right, we love a good 0.5. Right. I know. I know. Sleep
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All right, you ready to make some brownies? Yeah. I need you to get me the eggs and the brownie mix out the cupboard
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Since I've become a stepmom, I have changed quite a bit as a person. I think I've always been mature for my age, but I think I've matured even more
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Pop them in the cases. To be honest, I feel like it's fell in its place so naturally
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I think we're all right. Now that I've got stepchildren, I said to Mark
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I couldn't have no stepchildren. I love a loud house. What do you think makes a good parent
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What makes a good parent is just looking after your kids in general
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Patience is key. There's definitely times where you're like, this is a lot, but honestly, it is all worth it
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I just think you've got to be there for your kids. Mmm. LAUGHTER Uncut
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Should we put them in the oven so we can actually eat proper brownies? Yeah. I definitely do want kids myself
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Like, I'm only 21. I definitely do want kids. And I think, if anything, having two stepchildren has made me want kids even more
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What do your hope for the future holds for you both as a couple? So I think for our future..
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Well, I hope we stay together. I hope! I think our future, to be honest, we're very unpredictable people
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But our future will definitely be together. Obviously, as long as we're all happy, the kids, I want them to grow up and have a great life
