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People think she's using me for my money
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I like nice things. He likes getting them for me. I didn't really know what I had to offer other than money, so that's what I went with
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I've sent Bethany about $100,000. I'm not just thinking of him as secure income, but he is secure income
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People just think that she's using me or that I love her, but she doesn't love me
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I was not always attracted to Jeremy. My name is Bethany. This is my partner, Jeremy. I don't remember the last time we made this
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I don't either. She popped up on Facebook on the people you may know thing. And I didn't know her
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but her picture grabbed my attention. I sent her a message and basically said, like
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you're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. So why did you offer Bethany $50 for her number
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um at that point in my life i had just started my career um you know she was a beautiful woman
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i didn't really know what i had to offer other than money so that's what i went with
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i didn't think she would talk to me unless i sent her money babe i think this is going to be good
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dough how the dough turns out is going to basically make her break the day for her
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Babe, what'd you do with the flower? I need it. Okay. I think for the first six years of us talking to each other
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we weren't dating. We were both single. He catered to everything that I wanted and I needed
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would you say? Yeah. I sent you whatever you needed. So like hairstyles, nails, things for school
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stuff like that. He just made sure I was good. Over the past six years
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I've sent Bethany about $100,000 in cash app transactions and gifts. at the beginning of this
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it was truly just transactional I was just very young and like
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just excited that a man was like willing to spend his money on me I always knew I had feelings but it was never anything more than just like a casual conversation or like a virtual relationship Just knowing that I would always be okay
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I was number one. Just seeing who he is, not just the guy that sends me money, but like the guy that loves Harry Potter and the guy that likes the Star Wars
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Just seeing that he has a good personality and he's very kind and patient with me, it was very easy to catch feelings for him
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Once I finally decided we're going to meet and hang out, that's what took it to the next level
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We went on a date and we never left each other alone after that. Yeah. A month or so later, I just started calling her my girlfriend, even though I never officially said hey
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Yeah, he never asked me. I still do pay her bills and I try to buy her whatever she wants
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I don't think that's ever going to be something that's going to change. We went on a shopping spree about two weeks ago, and I've been looking for these boots everywhere
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They were about like $300. These were about $190, $200. This ran us about $400
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So we're always going shopping, always buying me stuff. I was not always attracted to Jeremy
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I think I was attracted to Jeremy for the wrong reasons. There was like, mostly I was just blinded by the money
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He was different from most men that I had entertained. He didn't just care about looks or body
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It was more so like your personality. All this together, the coach bag was like, I want to say close to $1,200
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So about $2,400. I don't really feel guilty about accepting his generosity
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I feel like the roles for the genders are to be that the man provides financially
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and the woman holds down the household and in return she gets nice things None of this was ever forced Everything that I done for Bethany sure it might have been stuff she wanted and stuff but it was always something that I wanted to do for her
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What I enjoy most about giving her gifts is just the happiness that I see when I give her something
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Now it's just love. Like, he doesn't have to buy me anything anymore. I don't really care about that stuff
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I think probably the biggest misunderstanding is people thinking that I'm financing her lifestyle
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and they don't think that there's any feelings on her end. People saying that I am a gold digger, that he buys my love
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People just think that she's using me or that, you know, I love her, but she doesn't love me
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And I just like my views are clouded by that. But I mean, those people don't see the dynamic between me and her every day
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If we post on social media, on my page, people comment things all the time
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Don't trust her. Use her. um yeah i think that's kind of weird to encourage someone to use someone i would never intentionally
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use someone for the better of myself so i would hope that he wouldn't use me that's not a girlfriend
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that's a um jeremy was buying me stuff years and years and years and years and years before we were
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ever intimate so i can't really be a if i'm not having in exchange for things he's just my boyfriend
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Someone said, be prepared for your replacement. I understand there's people out there with more money
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but, I mean, that doesn't necessarily mean she's going to have true feelings for those people
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Do you really have true feelings, or are you thinking of him as more of a secure income
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I think that the feelings definitely came as time went on. I'm not just thinking of him as a secure income
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but he is secure income. There are a few positive comments. There a lot of women that try to like empower me and tell me there nothing wrong with the lifestyle you live If a man wants to take care of you let him do that the only thing that matters to me is if she happy or
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not i don't i don't care what the outside world thinks of us how did your friends and family
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react at first i think maybe at first my family thought that i was moving too quickly she's my
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only serious relationship i've i've never had serious relationships other than her but i think
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once they saw that I was happy, that they were happy for me
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I've met his family and I love them to pieces. I don't really let my friends
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have an opinion on my relationship, so I've never heard one. I knew Jeremy was the one
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when I used all of my defense mechanisms and he still stayed around
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Jeremy is an extremely hard worker and he's extremely intelligent. I've never met anyone besides my father
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that's as extremely intelligent as Jeremy is. I think that people look at me and they see like
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oh, she's a pretty woman. And then they look at Jeremy and they're like, oh, he's like a mid-30s white man
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and he doesn't seem like he's supposed to be with her. They automatically think that it's just strictly
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a transactional relationship, but that's definitely not where we are now. Not at all
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I think Bethany has changed me for the better in just helping me become a more confident person
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and helping me see my self-worth. There's so much more to me
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that I can offer to her than just my money. Jeremy has changed me for the better
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because he has showed me a different type of lifestyle. There's more to life than just paying your bills until you die
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I think we go very well together. You kind of just let me live out my life, and I just let you make your money and pay the bills
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I can't really blame people for judging, but just keep watching us
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and get a feel of who we are as a couple, and you'll get to love us
