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Everything up here stopped developing, like the eyeballs, eyelashes, eyebrows, none of that

I'm one out of two million. People have been mean. They're very judgmental

Do your kids do everything for you? Do you need a caregiver

If anything happens to our kid, everybody's making a big deal out of it. Oh, well, she doesn't know how to take care of her kids

You mentioned that someone called CPS on you. Do you want to tell us about that

My name's Adrian. I was born with a condition called complete bilateral cryptophthalmos

Everything up here stopped developing. Like the eyeballs, eyelashes, eyebrows, none of that

I'm one out of two million. So it's very rare. I don't like to fry on an open stove

So I have an air fryer right here. It's safer. You don't have grease flying everywhere

It's really no different. Some things like she'll need more help than usual

But like usually when we were younger, she did everything herself. I've been a single parent by myself

I'm the type of person that I figure my own stuff out. I try every possibility before, you know, going for help

Where there's a will, I'm sure there's a way. When I was five, I asked to learn how to cook

So from there, you taught me how to cook different stuff. He's like, can I help you in the kitchen

I was like, well, I really don't want you nowhere near a stove. But as long as I'm in the kitchen, yeah, I guess you can help

My mother can do everything that I can do. She can't drive. She can clean up. She can cook. She can do things like that

I can't really compare her to anything else because She's the only mother I've had

At 19 years old you felt pregnant tell us about that. How you felt? I came home for Christmas to visit my mother She was just screaming and she like what are you gonna do with the baby I said going to raise it Like what do you mean My dad wasn too happy He was like well you can see to do this and this and that

When I had the baby, my middle brother, he asked me the question, why don't you let mama raise the baby

I said, why don't you just leave? I carried this child for nine months and you mean to ask me

Why don't I let mama keep the baby and raise it? I was just like, dude, please get out of my face

Eventually, you know, people kind of just took it as it is what it is

My mom, God rest her soul, she helped out a lot. But sometimes I had to tell her to back off

I'm like, you can't take over my job. I'm sorry, that's not just going to work

And she understood that. We've gotten into it, but she understood, hey, I need to do this for myself

It wasn't difficult. I know how to change, baby. I mean, yeah, parents get pooped on and peed on, and she did

Especially for blind parents who people underestimate a lot. Like, society just doesn't give us that credit that we deserve

She was saying sentences by the time she was 16, 17 months old. She was putting on her shoes on the right feet by the time she was 15 months

Because I was teaching her that stuff early. Just kind of had to go for it

And trial and error will happen when it comes to your kids. You just got to decide which way are you going to, you know, do this to make it work

So that's what I did. Do you feel as if you missed out on anything with your daughters growing up

Just being able to see what they look like. I mean, it's not really a big thing to me because I pay attention to audio cues

You know, I knew their cries, the hungry cries, the bored cries, the I don't feel good cry

or I'm just fighting my sleep, but sleepy cry. It was easy for me

It was really a struggle, actually. Like, sometimes people stare or give, like, weird looks

If you're curious, that's fine. But being like dirty looks and stuff yeah we try to stop that When you are a blind parent naturally you know we a part of a minority You know that the stigma is on us

This world is not nice. Even though I can't see, I do know what it's like

Because people have been mean. They're very judgmental. As blind parents, we have to be more protective than the sighted parents

Because if we get any calls or if anything happens to our kid, everybody's making a big deal out of it

Oh, well, she doesn't know how to take care of her kid. Let's call CPS. or, you know, make a hotline call

You mentioned that someone called CPS on you. It's just nosy neighbors

It's just people who are uneducated decide that they want to call. And my kids have never been taken away

because I'm doing what I'm supposed to do. I told them, if you can raise my kids better, go ahead

They left. I still got my children. What's up, y'all? This is your girl, Sapphire

so I need to do my facial care. My main purpose was to raise awareness

about my eye condition because I don't know anyone that has it

First of all, thank all of y'all. Y'all are helping and causing doors to open for me

that I never thought possible. You know, why not put my story out there? Maybe one day I'll come across somebody who's like me

Keep rocking with me. Keep helping me grow up. I love y'all. But you better have thick skin

when you do this social media thing because if you don't, honey, they will break you

Do your kids do everything for you? Do you need a caregiver

That's not safe. You shouldn't be walking around your house like that

Do you live with someone? What? People kind of get the wrong idea

Oh, I bet your kids take care of you. Huh? Take care of who

No you got that wrong Who took care of them then There are people who know my capability who know my ability and then there the people who just assume Maybe from an outside perspective it kind of seems like that because I help my mom

but, like, it don't be like, we take care of her. We don't do that. I don't have to, like, walk her places

I don't have to take her places. She can go by herself. I obviously say something because that's my mother, and I'm always on her side

But, like, she takes her, like, she doesn't even care. like she doesn't care what people say actually somebody left that in my inbox

I know she can see but I just can't prove it I don't have a pic I literally

cursed them out literally I said I am not in the mood get off my page with that

mess yeah sometimes I do clock back at them and I just be like y'all need to go

research stop assuming go educate yourselves how about you open the book

before you start judging by the cover. Read the chapters, you might like what you find

Honestly, like we're like any other family. We're no different. We have the same issues as you

I feel like having a visually impaired parent is really like taught me a lot of stuff

Honestly, I really love you. I love you too, mom. She know that

I just want people to know with any disability, it's not about the difference

It's about how you're making that difference work. You just have to live the best way you know how

and life is only what you make it. No matter what the challenges is, don't give up

because guess what? If I can do it and others like me can do it, y'all can do it

Thank you