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work with people who deal with suicidal
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ideation every single day. I'm not
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making this up. This is every day. I'm
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working with children or adults who are
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having thoughts of harming themselves.
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And it's never one thing. It wasn't It's
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never one thing. It's usually a
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combination of a whole bunch of stuff.
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And also the fact that the person feels
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like life would be easier without
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Right? So, whatever the pain is,
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whatever the issue is, the person feels
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like the only way I can get rid of the
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pain is to end my life. Right? So, it's
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not that people necessarily want to die.
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They don't want to feel the pain. And in
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that moment, the best way that person
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knows how to deal with pain is by ending
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their life. It had nothing to do with
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something you did specifically or
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something someone else did specifically.
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Normally, it's always a combination of a
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whole bunch of things, things I didn't
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accomplish, things I wanted to do,
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something that happened 20 years ago.
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You know, and and also too, people
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people deal with depression for things
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they will never tell you about. There's
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certain things you would never know.
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They'll never express it to you in
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Men Men we we we don't express things
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very well, right? Like we don't tell you
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how we feel. Um so um I remember this
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one person I had many many many years
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always presented the exact same way.
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Every time we spoke, presented the exact
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same way. Always cool, always happy,
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always joyful. And then one day he tried
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to harm himself. Right? I had no idea,
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and I'm trained to do this, and I had no
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clue. So, my point is, there's nothing
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that you did specifically, number one.
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And for all the men out there,
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especially, who are dealing with really
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difficult things in your life, I would
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say, "Please get help. Please reach out
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to somebody. You don't have to do this
