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Marriage Is An Institution You Can't Graduate From
Feb 13, 2025
Marriage as an institution is faced with ups and downs. You can't graduate from it and you will continue to enjoy the fact that you are still a student of. This video helps to explain the complexities of marriage and why lovers must learn to avoid the escalation of their interpersonal conflicts. #nekenwatv #vlog #marriagegoals #marriageadvice
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the case of husband and wife is never
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elting if you are still single I want
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you to understand that you should be
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prepared for anything because this inord
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marriage is not an easy thing it's not
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something that you go into easily and
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come out of it easily you get the point
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sometimes they fight they fight like if
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you see where husband and wife are
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fighting husband and wife are like
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siblings in a home where two of them
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they always fighting whenever they in
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the house but when they come out outside
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they remain the best things that has
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ever happened to each other you cannot
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see my younger brother now on the road
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and you begin to beat him and I keep
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silent you say that can never happen you
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can never see my older sister now on the
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road and you begin to insult her and I
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will keep quiet that can never happen
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the two of us will put leg in one thower
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that is what that is what is going to be
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expected on that day I two of us will
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put leg in One thower how can you be
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insulting my old sister in my presence
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but when we get back home when we get
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back home the both of us fight like we
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fight
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like just little things are the things
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that will cause problem we fight like
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but normally the my people will always
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say that the anger of a sibling does not
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it does not go to the bone that is it
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doesn't last for a long time whenever
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you are angry with your sibling you just
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get angry before you know it you both of
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you are reconcile that is that is that
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is relationship that is family
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relationship for you now the same thing
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is also applicable to husband and wife
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just a little thing the both of them has
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picked up fight they have started
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fighting but when they are done fighting
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you see them B they they have they have
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reconciled and sometimes their
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reconciliation happens on bed got to the
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point that their relationship their
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reconciliation happens on bed and when
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they done reconciling on the bed the
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husand will be
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like just this you giv to me yeah which
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other you give to me then wife be
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like this the only that I'm giving to
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you why then are you accepting it you
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get the point now so this husband and
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wife two of them will always they fight
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they fight but what is more important is
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how they reconcile how they finally
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bring themselves together to reconcile
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so whenever you see a husband and wife
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having misunderstanding just know that
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is a common thing in a relationship in a
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marriage in a marriage okay the only
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time you can start saying something is
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when that thing begin to go out of it
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when it becomes a domestic violence
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normally it is not it is never an ideal
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for a man to raise his hands on his wife
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the both of them can can shout at each
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other they can they can say all man of
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things to each other but knowing fully
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well that there an extent at which you
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cannot go if you really love your wife
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or if you really love your husband the
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love you have for each other can never
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allow you go beyond limits can never
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allow you hit your partner can never
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allow you say things that will be
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hopeful to your partner it is normal for
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both of you to argue you can argue over
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things maybe argue over politics argue
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over some certain things at home it is
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normal it is very very normal but it
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becomes abnormal if the argument extends
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to domestic violence to name calling or
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what have you that is where it becomes
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very wrong you get so it is just normal
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for lovers to fight in a relationship it
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is normal their their fight is just like
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the fight of siblings the fight today in
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a few seconds they have reconed is just
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normal okay I made this video for those
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of us who have been asking why is it
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that mared people always fight and they
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it's normal it's normal
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as long as you you are a different
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person and you got married to a
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different
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person there's bound there's a
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possibility of interpersonal conflict we
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we are individually personally we have
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personal intra intra intra conflict that
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is intra personal conflict conflict that
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is conflict between between ourselves
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then imagine where we can have that kind
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of conflict within ourselves then what
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happens to when somebody who shares a
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different opinion about something comes
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to play definitely there will be an
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interpersonal conflict so it's possible
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what is more important there is how the
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both of you are able to
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reconcile after a fight okay and even
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though you fight ensure that your fight
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does not go beyond limit ensure that it
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doesn't go to the extent of name calling
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or into any form of domestic violence
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that is when it becomes tosic okay so
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whether it is for normal argument yes
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lovers can argue
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Joe Biden the former president of the
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United States even Barack Obama who is
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also the former president of the United
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States and Donald Trump cannot tell you
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that for a long time they've married
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their wife they've never had a
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misunderstanding that can never be
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true they can that can never be true in
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one way or the other they have had their
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misunderstanding they have argued over
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some certain things maybe especially if
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the wife is is a Chas fan and the man
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and the husband is a one they can argue
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over clothes and whatever they can also
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argue over food the husband can tell the
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wife baby this food you cooked it does
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not taste like nor food you cook you see
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argument to start do I have the strength
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okay you that have the Str why didn't
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you come to the kitchen to cook it for
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you know an argument that it's not AR
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just come it's normal it's normal it's
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normal so like I said before it's normal
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for an argument to happen in a in a
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marriage but it becomes abnormal if that
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argument extends Beyond it limit when it
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extends to domestic violence that is
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when it becomes a problem so for those
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of us who are still single and plan on
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getting married don't be scared okay
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it's still something that you will
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experience my people will always say
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that the marriage is an institution of
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course everybody knows it's an
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institution it's like a university in
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fact is is is a school you can never
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graduate from okay marriage is like a
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school you can never graduate from
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reason being that every day you learn
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one or two things about marriage one or
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two things about your partner you may
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think that your partner is this kind of
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a person then in a few hours your
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partner has has changed like a chameleon
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now you will now start forfeiting that
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thing you need you used to know about
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your partner and start relearning your
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partner then before you know it on the
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process of trying to learn okay you will
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now think that this is where your part
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this is your real partner this is how
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your partner behaves B he or she will
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change way lifestyle and that behaving
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like one other thing again that is that
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the brain is touching you will still
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leave that thing that you have learn
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before you will un learn that one start
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learn this new thing so it's just normal
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in marriages so marriage is like a
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school you can never graduate from in
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fact it is a school you the only
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certificate you get from it is that
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certificate that will be given to you
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either in the court or in the church or
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in in your families depending on the
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kind of type of marriage you did okay
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that's the only certificate that they
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give you by showing that yes this thing
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portrays the fact that you are married
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and congrat ations but meanwhile have it
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in mind that this certificate we are giv
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to you is a certificate that shows that
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this school you have enrolled into which
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is marriage you can never graduate from
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it again you can never graduate from it
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again in fact upon graduation is your
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debt if you graduate it means you have
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died so that is marriage for you that is
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marriage for you so don't be scared
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don't be scared many of us that have
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been shouting are we really sure we can
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do this thing yes you can do it you can
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you can do it you can don't be scared of
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anything you can do
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it oh my God I just pray that God gives
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me that woman that woman that I can play
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with that woman that that can understand
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me that is the same thing you that is
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single now watching this video should be
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praying that the woman the woman should
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be the T that will understand you she
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she will know when you when you click
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your your your eyelids but when you give
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her some signal she will understand it
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this is my husand this is what my want
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she knows when you are hungry for that
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thing you understand what I mean by that
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thing she knows when you are hungry for
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it she knows the best time to approach
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you to request for anything from you so
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when husband and wife study each other
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like this if you if you're a man and you
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study your wife to the extent you know
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her next line of action you know when
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she's happy and when she's sad trust me
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that will be the best marriage you can
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ever experience as long as God has
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created you to be a man that will marry
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that woman
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so take your time study your wife very
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well and as a woman to study your older
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very well trust me you will enjoy your
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marriage you will definitely enjoy your
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marriage you get the point now so I'm
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