You don’t envy them, You are them

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Hi guys, welcome back to my channel for

another video. If you are returning,

today we're going to be talking about

how to not envy people on your path, on

your journey toward yourself, to

self-actualization. How do you not look

to other people uh and feel inferior and

not compare yourself? I'm going to talk

all about it. So, let's get into the

video. First things first, I want to

start by saying that envy is not a bad

thing. I know that conventionally it's

looked at in society as very bad. Like

you're told, "Oh, you shouldn't feel

like that. You shouldn't feel jealous of

other people. You should always be happy

for other people." Uh so to

conventionalist terms or what most

people think it is, it's like it's a

gross feeling to feel envious about

somebody. It's it's an uncomfortable

feeling. It's something that we don't

care to admit about ourselves. But the

reality of it is all of us experience

it. At one point in your life, you

looked at someone else and said, "Wow,

they have such an incredible life. I

wish I had something similar or they

have such an incredible car or this

woman is so beautiful. I wish I looked

like her or whatever it is. You know, if

you're a human being, you felt the

emotion before. So, how do you actually

cope with it? And how do you go higher

and higher without looking down on other

people and realizing that it's not a

competition? Understand that when it

comes to this, perspective is

everything. The way that you look at

things in life matters and it makes all

the difference. And especially when it

comes to an emotion like this. And the

reason I say that is because to you

feeling envious doesn't have to be a bad

thing. If you keep shaming yourself for

it, if you keep telling yourself that

that experience that you're having is

invalid, you know, you're trying to get

yourself out of it in the wrong ways.

Whenever I have been in a state where I

experience envy, I try to ask myself,

where can I draw inspiration from? Try

to draw inspiration from other people.

Other people are showing you a

representation of what is being done,

what is humanly possible. Imagine

looking at that and saying to yourself,

"Oh, if it's been done before, that

means that there's a chance that I can

do it, too. And I think this is the most

solid mindset that you can ever get

into." Also, being happy for other

people, learning to celebrate their

wins, and learning to celebrate your own

wins. If I'm looking at someone else and

I'm thinking to myself, "Oh, this person

has it all. They really do have it all."

I really have to see it in my light, but

then I have to realize nobody has it

all. If there's one thing that somebody

has, there's another thing that they

don't have. And it's the same thing for

you, right? This will probably be the

title of today's video. And I drew

inspiration from somebody else's video

on Instagram. I came across this video

on Instagram of this woman explaining it

so beautifully and I actually linked it

in the description box below if you guys

want to check it out. But I think

everybody should watch this video

because it is so raw. It is so real and

it really gives you a huge perspective

on how to take envy and and or jealousy

or however however you want to see it or

describe it and turn that into a

positive emotion. Something that's going

to make you so much more productive

rather than counterproductive. So the

point is you don't envy them, you are

them. Let that sink in for a second. You

don't envy them, you are them. So

essentially she was explaining this idea

of unity consciousness. The fact that we

are all energy manifesting in different

forms. Now if that's a little bit of

more of a complicated way for you to

understand things and you don't

understand it at that level, essentially

what it is is like another human being

doing something should make you feel so

proud. What I took from this is your

illusion of separateness is what's

making you feel like everything should

be taken from them and given to you. I

think ego can be beneficial. Believe it

or not, when it comes to making goals

and achieving them and making sure that

you're going at a pace that's

comfortable for you, ego is really good.

Like it's good to have an ego. It's good

to have an identity cuz you have a goal.

You make an idea of how you're going to

get there and then you strive toward it.

Uh but understanding life in terms of

unity, in terms of oneness, and not

feeling like you're separate from

everybody is so peaceful. It is so

peaceful. I would never want to go back

to thinking that I was just solely

walking this earth by myself and

achieving everything by myself without

the help of everybody else. I would

never want to go back to thinking like

that. Especially when you're on a

journey like this one where everything

feels so lonely uh on a self

actualization journey because you are

spending most of your days alone. To

think that you're not the only person

trying to achieve all these things makes

you feel so much better. If one person

was able to execute something, that

means another person can do it too. If

anything, another person can maybe add

to it. So essentially make it better,

tweak it, and then another human being

comes along and does it a different way.

If you look at anything in the history

of humanity, we've treated everything

this way. One person had an original

idea and then people just kept adding on

to it and then it benefits the whole of

society. So if you look at your purpose

the same way. So this ties into

everything. It ties into the purpose

that you play. If I didn't see content

creators on YouTube that were women, if

I didn't see women on social media to

begin with, the chances of me wanting to

start a YouTube channel or even being

inspired, I don't even know if that

would be there. And I thought to myself,

you know what? This seems like the best

thing that I could do for myself. Let me

bet on myself and see if this works out.

Approaching things with that mentality

gets you so far. Viewing things that way

is also really a healthy way to look at

envy because you're no longer putting

envy in a a box and labeling it as

terrible. When you put your emotions in

a good or bad pile, what tends to happen

is when you feel the bad emotions, you

invalidate the experience you're having.

You tell yourself over and over that you

are not supposed to be feeling what

you're feeling. But how can you tell

yourself that? You are literally

experiencing the emotion right now. It

doesn't make sense then uh to to try and

convince yourself that that emotion is

not there. It's there my love. It's it's

it's trying to play its part. It's

operating within you. But you have to be

able to detach from that and realize

that you are not the emotion. When you

feel envy, I think of it as a soul cry.

I'll give you guys an example. I used to

be really uh envious or like jealous or

really I really admired women who knew

how to be financially stable or like

they were financially literate. I saw

them as being so high value. I was like,

imagine knowing how to spend your money.

Imagine knowing how to save your money

because that was just not a norm for me.

For me, I grew up around people who had

a very scarcity mindset. So, uh, saving

money and finding ways to make more of

it and investing and all these topics.

They were just so like taboo topics.

They were not things that I was exposed

to. So, watching these women be so

successful in their businesses, uh,

content creation and and like social

media, whatever, and like saving their

money and building a retirement savings,

like that was so out of the box, like to

understand that those type of women like

they actually prioritize your financial

needs. As much as I think it's great to

have a provider, I think at the end of

the day, you need to have your own

money. It doesn't matter what position

you are in life, it's a very safe and

secure way to go through your life. And

also, you don't have to worry as much,

right? And I never prioritized that in

my past. Uh I didn't understand it the

way that those women did. And so what

did I do to fix that problem? I taught

myself. I bought books on financial

literacy. I bought books on investing. I

watch YouTubers who make a financial

literacy videos so I can gain a sense of

understanding so I can build a financial

future for myself. So essentially doing

everything that these women would do and

then becoming the type of person who is

able to prioritize that naturally. Then

it'll just be something that I do I just

do without thinking. That's the thing is

like you also need to take

accountability. It's like once you

figure out you're like, "Wow, this

person has this or they look like this

or they they've done this in the gym."

Then I really need to get it together. I

need to prioritize all the things that

they prioritize. I'm not afraid to ask

people, "Can you please teach me this?"

If I don't know about something and I

really want to learn about it, I would

ask anybody like, "Please teach me how

you did this. Please teach me how you

understood this." Because I want to keep

learning like for the rest of my life. I

want to keep learning as a person. I

don't want to stay stuck. Like I already

talked about this in my I think it was

my last video like the stagnation aspect

is like being stagnant sucks. One thing

that you need to be able to see is that

things are not always as they seem most

of the time they're not even remotely

close to what they seem like they are.

Don't get fooled by false ideals. I

think especially in the digital age when

everything is uh very meant to look a

certain way. It's not always what it

seems. Let me be somebody who tells you

that and like understand that that's the

truth is like I've met people and even I

know for myself like I used to have so

much fun on Instagram. I used to take so

many pictures and I used to like post

them or whatever but it was so far away

from who I actually was like the picture

looked like something and then I just

felt like a completely different way.

Whatever you're seeing on your phone

like don't believe it. The thing is when

you make this mindset shift where you're

not interpreting everything as like real

anymore and I know the mind is very like

it'll go straight to whatever it see and

whatever I see I will believe. Once you

make this mindset shift you consume

content so much more freely and even the

type of content that you want to consume

changes as well. You don't waste time on

things that are not going to serve you.

Like I said before, we're not doing

things that do not serve us. the things

that I look at now, the pages that I

follow and everything, they're so deep

and they teach me so much because I

consume such like light-hearted content.

And the algorithm only shows you what

you consume most of. So if you consume

content that you don't like, you keep

clicking on content that you're trying

to get away from, the algorithm is just

going to keep pushing the content

through more and more to get your

attention. But if you start to consume

content that's actually going to benefit

you or teach you something, then you

know, and I'm not saying it has to be

like that all the time. I consume

entertainment here and there obviously

like when it gets to the point where

it's very excessive and you turn off

your phone feeling so drained. I think

that's when you have to really rethink

how you're using your resources. You'll

be so much more free. Like you'll be

able to consume content in such a fun

way. Like you'll look at someone's video

or something and you'll look at it and

be like, "Oh, this is so cute. This is

so fun." And then the next thing or

whatever. Like you move on with your

life. You don't go, "Oh, why does my

morning not look like that? Why does my

life not look like that? Why does my car

not look like like all of that is going

to steal the joy you like just pure joy

of existence because it's like so unfair

to keep comparing yourself to other

people. One of you guys actually

requested today's video as well is like

that's the reason I wanted to talk about

it today because like it's not one of

the challenges I feel like I have to

face anymore because I've come to terms

within myself. I have a different

perspective. I have a different

understanding of what it means to be

confident and realize that nobody is me.

So, let this be your sign to focus. If

you catch yourself being envious

immediately, you should think to

yourself, they're doing it, so that

means I can do it, too. Now, get to

work. That's it. Easy, simple, no

excuses. When I was first getting into

my spiritual practices and learning to

be disciplined with meditation and yoga

and like making sure I showed up to

every single class, I would watch other

people online already doing it. I would

uh speak to some of my friends who were

already doing it or in that state

already. And it would make me feel so

bad about myself because I'm like, I'm

not even there. I'm not even being

consistent. I'm not even keeping up on

my meditations. And then I always took

it as a sign. I was like, okay, this is

my sign to go allin. This is my sign to

focus on myself because I'm I'm sitting

here watching other people doing it

wondering. I'm like, oh, it must be so

nice to go and start. The next morning,

I I showed up to yoga. I just started

with 10 minutes of meditation for the

day. And then that was a couple years

ago and now it's 15 minutes and then it

was twice a day. Now I don't do twice a

day anymore just because I have a little

bit of a busier schedule. But I do 15 to

20 minutes in the morning and then I

also have my yoga class which there's a

little interval where we do like a

little bit of meditation as well. So

having that routine has stabilized me as

a person. It's made me so much more

grounded and aware. But imagine I kept

like I was continuing to watch those

people doing it and not actually taking

action myself. So let it be your sign to

get up and do the work. Your body is a

temple of God, but nobody can occupy

your body. Your body is meant for you to

execute the ideas that grow in your

mind. Your beautiful mind and then your

beautiful body gets to work. Like when

you get to the point where you're very

comfortable in your journey, you're very

confident in yourself. If you look in

the mirror, you like what you see. You

like the way you show up in public. You

like the way you walk and talk and the

way you treat other people. You don't

feel the need to look at other people

anymore. You don't feel the need to

compare yourself anymore because you're

like, "What is there to compare? This

person is completely different than me."

The biggest blessing in my life that I

learned, a person who feels like they

always have enough

is always the most happiest and

satisfied person. That's the person

that's going to win in life. That's the

person that's going to move through so

move through life so effortlessly

because to feel like you're satisfied in

every single moment regardless of what

you have regardless of who is in your

life. It just means you're in a

different you're on a different planet

almost because the nature of the mind is

to always want more. If it's not this

person I want a better person. If it's

not this uh car I want a better car. If

it's not this house I want a better

house. and wanting and constantly being

on that like you are avoiding the one

place that you are always going to be in

which is the present because you always

want to get to the future or you're

somebody who pers the past a lot you

always fixate on the past you're like oh

my goodness why does this happened to me

but what did I say before victim

mentality is the worst mindset that you

can carry through life there's traumas

that people go through that they cannot

get over and like it's not their fault

and that's completely true it's not your

fault what happened to you it's not your

fault the cards that you were dealt. But

what can you do with the cards that you

were dealt? Everybody's dealt different

cards, but it's like imagine somebody

has medium cards versus somebody who has

very, very poor cards. But the person

with the poor cards decides to do

exceptionally well for themselves versus

the person who was dealt okay cards and

they could have taken it to the next

level, but they decided not to do that

for themselves. They stayed in the same

place while the other person grew. So,

it's like, what's the difference between

those two people? One of them didn't

play victim. One of them didn't play

poor me. Everything's happening to me.

Everything I can't do anything. I was

put on this earth to just suffer. That

type of mentality gets you absolutely

nowhere. And if you look at the most

successful people, they always take

accountability. They don't let people

pity them. Last thing I want to say uh

for today's video is that you already

are.

You already are worthy of having that

thing. We fall into the illusion that if

we have something or if we get something

then we're going to be okay, then we're

going to be happy. Then we're going to

be beautiful. Then we're going to be

satisfied. Then we're going to be

worthy. I heard this woman and she was

literally saying that when she was

bigger, she was waiting till she lost a

lot of weight until she could wear

certain clothes or buy certain clothes

cuz she was thinking to herself, the

skinnier version of me deserves those

clothes or deserves those possessions,

but the version of me right now doesn't.

And when you think about it, it's so

upsetting because I know that every

woman has encountered like something

similar to this where we think a a

different version of ourel, a future

version of ourel deserves more than who

we are right now. And I think the reason

that makes me so upset is because like

who decided to take you on this journey

to begin with. If I were to look at

myself 5 years ago and think to myself,

you know what? She's not ready for a

YouTube channel. she's not ready for a

YouTube channel because she's like this

and she doesn't look like this and she's

not fit enough and whatever. If I was to

pick myself apart, I would not have done

this today. People say a lot of the

times is like when they lose weight,

they're like, I I want to keep the

weight off or when they gain weight or I

don't want to be the version of myself

that I was when I started this journey.

I don't want to look like that again. I

don't want to be like that version of

myself again. But why hate on that

version of yourself that literally

brought you to this point? They made the

decision to upgrade your life, to do

something about your unhappy

circumstances. That version of you

deserves a round of applause. You're

already everything. Every single thing

you want to do only adds to what you

already bring to the table. But you

already are worthy of everything. You

already you can do it now. You don't

have to wait for perfect circumstances

to get to the place that you've always

been dreaming of. You just have to find

what makes you unique. You have to find

what makes you feel most comfortable.

And if you lead with what you love most

and you lead uh thinking to yourself,

I'm not trying to become like this

person or that person. I just want to

learn how to be the best me. And then

that way you elevate yourself so much

because it's like you literally can't

find another you. And if anybody tries

to replace you, they know that they

can't because you're so special and

you're so unique. Okay, so I hope you

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