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being in love is enjoyable the Pinnacle
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of your romance is the wedding day years
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of happy marriage ahead of them as two
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folks ride out into the sunset together
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but when the music ends and the formal
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attire is packed away a happy and
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healthy marriage really gets
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started greetings and welcome back to
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another bestie video everyone even the
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most successful couples have ups and
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downs in their levels of Attraction
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chemistry and connection marriage can be
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an amazing journey important metrics
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indicate how well our marriage is doing
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and we'll tell you what they are in
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today's video watch until the end to
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learn about all of them from asking each
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other questions to not controlling each
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other praising rather than criticizing
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letting go of stuff to finding ways to
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spend time together and more you
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approach things as a team you approach
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things as a team making choices as a
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team with your spouse is a crucial
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indicator of a happy marriage if you
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make DEC decisions that are advantageous
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to you both as a couple your marriage
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basis team language establishes and
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sustains a team spirit when a couple
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makes the effort to communicate as a
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team their marriage becomes stronger and
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more satisfying do you discuss decisions
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with your partner or make them alone as
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a couple tell us right away in the
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comments box below you inquire of one
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another you pose queries to one another
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some couples settle into a routine of
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merely coexisting after living side by
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side for a number of years or even
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decades they give up trying to find out
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their partner's thoughts and point of
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view by asking inquiries there's no way
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around it it's a sign of a strong
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marriage when you can share your
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thoughts ideas and opinions with your
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partner even if you fear your spouse
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won't agree you prioritize the
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relationship over accuracy you
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prioritize the relationship over
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accuracy this indicates that you have a
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rapid for foress skill this implies that
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you are open to considering their
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perspective even if you believe you are
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correct and the other person is mistaken
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it demonstrates your preference for the
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relationship over your ego in certain
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cases even if you don't think you're at
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blame this can mean you have to
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apologize first your partner will see
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this as an example of humility and
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forgiveness and most of the time they
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will reciprocate you don't attempt to
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dominate one another you don't attempt
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to dominate one another
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this one is significant when each
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decision you make has an immediate
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impact on another it becomes natural to
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want to be in charge however it's
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imperative that you allow one another to
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be who you are despite the fact that
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these disparities may seem dangerous the
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fact that you both have unique strengths
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and weaknesses rather than the same ones
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makes you stronger your first person is
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your spouse who do you call in good
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times or bad your marriage is probably
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doing well if your partner is the first
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first to hear the majority of your good
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and bad news something is problematic
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anytime we realize we are depending too
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much on people other than our spouse our
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spouse doesn't always have to be our
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first choice in relationships friends
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are just as vital however we ought to
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prefer to share our lives with our
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companion over those with others the
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by you don't disregard one another
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effective communication is the
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Cornerstone of a healthy marriage
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nevertheless disdain can grow when one
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spouse consistently becomes sidetracked
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or acts as though they have more
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important tasks to complete fobbing is a
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popular complaint which is the act of
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aimlessly browsing through one's phone
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while someone else is talking will you
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occasionally ignore the conversation yes
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you are merely human however ever
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matrimony is a Gamble and the likelihood
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of a couple lasting is higher when they
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listen to one another together you never
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stop attempting new things together you
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never stop attempting new things there
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is truth to the flatmate phase it might
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lead to boredom and disinterest if you
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find yourself slipping into habits this
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may cause other more harmful behaviors
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to seep into the marriage it can be
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disheartening for partners if their
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significant other is unwilling to
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like taking a class or visiting a new
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place contempt swiftly follows
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complacency actively attempting to
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infuse fresh elements into their
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relationships frequently results in
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happy couples you let your significant
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other to develop independently your
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companion grows apart from you growing
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together is essential however it's
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equally critical for couples to give
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each other space to develop
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independently constantly being needy and
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clinging might wear down your partner's
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feelings and make them give you
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attention out of Duty rather than love
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they may eventually begin to view your
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relationship as a job they might want to
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leave allowing your partner to develop
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independently of you is crucial to your
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own happiness recall that you are not a
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prepackaged pair but rather two unique
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people who are in love some things you
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learn to let go of you get better at
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letting go you will inevitably irritate
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each other from time to time you to will
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engage in combat it will accumulate as
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you recall all the instances your spouse
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did or did not do something the best
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course of action is to discuss it and
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move on the Partnerships between two
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outstanding forgivers are the best there
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is noise in your home there is noise in
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your home if the nest is empty it may be
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considerably quieter than it formerly
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was a healthy home isn't silent though
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there is a significant amount of back
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and forth dialogue you're inquiring
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conversing and trying to establish a
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connection the lack of emotional
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connection is the issue with a silent
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house make time to play laugh and take
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pleasure in each other's company you
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give each other more praise than you do
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criticism you give more compliments than
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criticisms in any relationship criticism
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is required that is how Partners develop
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and comprehend problems but a
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collaboration cannot be sustained by
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criticism alone you are going to have
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problems if you are critiquing each
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other other more often than praising one
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another in fact studies indicate that to
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maintain a positive relationship you
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need five nice remarks to offset every
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bad one even when your partner isn't
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around you talk about them with
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difference even when your partner is not
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around you talk about them with
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difference the overall atmosphere of
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your marriage will be determined by the
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words you say to and about your partner
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despite your disapproval of what your
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spouse has done resist the urge to
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criticize them respect each other's
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opinions when working through conflicts
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and stand up for your spouse's
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reputation in public show each other
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respect when conversing with and about
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each other you two are honest with one
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another you're candid with one another
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it's difficult to put your heart out
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there and show your weaknesses in a
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relationship however it aids in the
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development of strong emotional bonds
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which are essential for any happy
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marriage your spouse's Comfort level and
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ability to communicate freely with one
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another are indicators that that your
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marriage has the potential to last you
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prioritize your relationship Above All
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Else your partner comes first at all
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times you don't always have the time to
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put your spouse first because of
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obligations to your children and your
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job that's not the case though when
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you're with the correct person saying I
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love you doing the dishes after supper
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or taking them to that new restaurant
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they've been wanting to try could all be
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examples of what to do the key is to
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prioritize your marriage Above All Else
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no matter how hectic life may seem this
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is not natural to some people it takes
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effort to become second nature just like
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anything else in life your arguments are
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constructive rather than harmful your
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fights are productive not destructive
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even seemingly Flawless couples argue
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behind closed doors the difference
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between dysfunctional and healthy
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relationships is that disputes shouldn't
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be about who's right they need to be
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more productive this includes listening
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understanding and respecting each
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other's opinions and finding common
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ground so that you may build your
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marriage and please call it what it is a
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struggle don't go around saying we never
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have fights we have discussions a
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quarrel doesn't mean you are slinging
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physical no sure you are discussing it's
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a fight but you may and should have a
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fair one when your conflicts start to
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become harmful rather than being
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productive it's a sign that you may be
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in an unhealthy relationship there are
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other symptoms to recognize such a
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relationship learn more by watching 17
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warning signs you are in a toxic
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relationship now back to signs you have
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a very strong marriage you share each
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other's beliefs and Ambitions you share
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each other's values and goals it would
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be boring if a couple had the exact same
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interests or personalities some of the
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strongest Partnerships are the ones
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where the couples balance each other out
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one of them May be too spontaneous but
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their significant other may pull them in
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a bit at the same time such spontaneous
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individual might make their partner more
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extroverted there are some long-term
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ideals and goals that they should share
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though for instance if you want to have
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children but your husband doesn't that
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could have serious implications for your
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marriage you seek ways to spend time
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together it would be boring if a couple
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had the exact same interests or
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personalities some of the strongest
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Partnerships are the ones where the
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couples balance each other out one of
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them may be too spontaneous but their
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significant other may pull them in a bit
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at the same time such spontaneous
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individual might make their partner more
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extroverted there are some long-term
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ideals and goals that they should share
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though for instance if you want to have
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children but your husband doesn't that
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could have serious implications for your
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marriage you seek ways to spend time
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together you seek opportunities to spend
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time together this differs between
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phases of Life newlyweds and retirees
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usually don't have to seek time together
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as much as a couple working two jobs and
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raising kids this doesn't imply you have
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to spend every minute together but it
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does mean you should arrange some day
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evenings some real one-on-one time where
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you can connect again if you no longer
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desire to spend time with your lover
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it's a clue that something is not right
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while these might be signs of a happy
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marriage it is very important to
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recognize the signs of an unhappy
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marriage learn more about these signs by
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watching signs your partner isn't your
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Forever partner or eight signs your
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partner no longer loves you so go ahead
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and watch one or both of these video to
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know when it's time to walk away from a
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relationship how many years have you
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been married let us know in the comment