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today we're going to be talking about
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divorce after a long marriage and
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reinventing yourself because let's just
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face it nobody plans to get married for
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20 25 30 years and then end their
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marriage And so I'm doubly excited
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because my guest today Tracy is a friend
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a colleague a therapist as well as a
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divorce and has been remarried since But
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it's just such a a hard chapter for most
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people's lives And so we thought we
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would talk a little bit about it and
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help any of you who might be going
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through something like divorce whether
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it's after a short marriage or a long
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marriage Hopefully we can help make that
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journey a little bit more smooth So uh
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without further ado Tracy please tell us
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a little bit about yourself Thanks for
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being here Yeah it's so good to be here
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I have been at Infinite for a little
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over two years I love it I have three
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adult kids I've gained a new son-in-law
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in the last year So yeah I'm just
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recering reinventing and Yeah And and
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you're a therapist Yeah Yeah That's what
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we do at Infinite And so you're a trauma
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therapist an EMDR therapist as well And
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tell us a little bit about your you know
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your personal experience what happened
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and why you ended up divorcing and tell
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us how long you were married Yeah I met
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ex-husband when I was 22 in college um
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married two years later and you never
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think you're going to get divorced
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Nobody plans for that on the altar and
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says you know we're going to end this in
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I found myself when my marriage was
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getting rocky I pretty much gave
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everything to my marriage I was a my
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identity was I'm a wife and I'm a mom
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and I loved it up until I didn't just it
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was a rocky journey figuring it out
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Right And it didn't happen overnight It
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didn't happen in a year right It took
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several years You mean once you guys
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finally decided to part ways I think
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just things had to be I've heard a
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saying that once women get the courage
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to leave it's been almost maybe three to
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five years and cuz I you know I didn't
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want that right I didn't I didn't want
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to split my family apart I didn't want
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to do that to my kids right and when I
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got to a point that I just couldn't be
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who I think I was really supposed to be
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in that relationship I took the bit the
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heart lit and started that new journey
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which was also kind of long So how long
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did your divorce the process of your
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divorce take It took a couple years It's
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so hard And you know this person that
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was your best friend and your partner
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and the the one you're you think you're
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going to do life with having to unlearn
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that it's just really harding
