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someone with secure attachment doesn't
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have a lot of issue with expressing
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those things and they feel as if they're
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going to be met with somebody who will
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respond in a healthy way to them and if
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they don't it's not personal. So someone
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with secure attachment will feel a lot
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more comfortable with closeness and
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connection and being intimate uh but as
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well as being comfortable with
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independence. I can be by myself. I can
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opt out of the event because I need some
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time to just recharge my batteries and I
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don't feel FOMO. I don't have to
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necessarily be part of everything.
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Someone with secure attachment also has
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an ability to regulate their emotions.
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And so when they're in distress, they
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can they can take a beat and they can
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recognize what it is that's going on
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inside of them. And they can they can
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allow emotions to come and go and be
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more fluid. and then they can do things
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uh more readily to cope with the change
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in emotions in order to regulate those
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things. The other thing that happens
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more easily for someone with secure
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attachment is that when there's
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conflict, which all relationships have
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conflict, they'll have conflict. They'll
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have constructive tension opportunities.
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But someone with secure attachment has a
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much easier time resolving conflict.
