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Vicky Pattison and Lucinda Light are the hosts of Channel 4's brand new dating show 'The Honesty Box', but how good is their love advice? Vicky and Lucinda answer your love dilemmas, using some of their own experiences and dating fails! #vickypattison #lucindalight #thehonestybox #mafs #marriedatfirstsightuk #dating #datingadvice Subscribe for regular entertainment! http://bit.ly/1qyfc2T Watch videos in full + exclusives here: https://thisisheart.co/heartglobalplayer Honest Celebrity Interviews: https://thisisheart.co/honestinterviews Music Artists: https://thisisheart.co/3YVm8wN Film and TV Stars: https://thisisheart.co/filmandtv _ We're the UK's biggest commercial radio brand creating memorable moments with the most recognised names in entertainment!
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I wouldn't know I haven't been married except for the fake maths wedding
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My friends all hate my partner. What do I do? Wow, I was not expecting that
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We do tend to approach things from slightly different. Which is why it's perfect
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The yin and the yang, that's it. Hi everybody, I'm Vicky Patterson. And I'm Lucinda Light
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And we are the hosts of E4's brand new reality show, The Honesty Box
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So exciting, and we are about to answer some of your dating dilemmas
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Let's go. i'm nervous about how i'm going to look on my wedding day how did you make oh this is the
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perfect one for you how did you make yourself feel confident for the big day because i wouldn't know
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i haven't been married except for the fake maths wedding so i thought you looked good at that well
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you did i think women get making a sweeping generalization here which i know you know is
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not always right but i think we got so in our own heads and consumed and bogged down by the
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things that actually don't even really matter you know like your husband fell in love with you for
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you i can knows i've got like lumps and bumps and all the rest of it and i think trying all the right
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place thank you girl but like trying to conf like i don't know like make yourself be small or like a
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certain shape for a certain dress i think it's kind of futile and like you don't want to be
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missing out on all the fun stuff like you want to be drunk on your hen you want to be doing your
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cake taste and you want to be trying your menu enjoy every single step of the way focus less on
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like focus less on what you look like and more on how you feel and i think that's i don't i haven't
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looked at one single photo of me from my wedding and gone oh god i wish you'd done one more pilates
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class there like yeah like all i've thought about is like oh you were having a really lovely time
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there and enjoying moment yeah dear vicky and lucinda i'm really feeling pressure to settle
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down as I get older. But I have no problems being single. Good. This is one for me. Yeah
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How can I, we're doing quite well here. We are. How can I convince other people that I don't need
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to be looking for love? Honestly, other people, man. Well, look, being single is a very valid
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relationship status. Yeah. And why not do it, do it well, enjoy it. Yeah. Not everybody needs to be
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partnership and I think also as you get older it's more about companionship really. Yeah
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And it takes a village you know to fill you up So you know having your friends and family and you know whatever it is Relationships come in many forms and it doesn necessarily have to be an intimate
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partner. Are you ready for this one? So it says, my partner has a work wife and they don't seem to
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have any boundaries. It's annoying me. How can I tell them to call up? Set her on fire
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wow i was not expecting that i hate this work wife culture you get it i do i am all for male
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female friendships like i just don't think there's any problem and i actually dispel the myth that
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you know you've there's more always more going on like one of my couple of my best pals are fellas
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so i think you can be mates with boys but this work wife thing i think is just like a total cringe
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get your own fella get your own life that you would assure your husband that you have boundaries
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and they do and that your relationships are very healthy and wholesome this sounds like it's seeping
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over into white sort of material and and you know there's a responsibility there that the partner's
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not feeling very safe within that yeah because they don't have any boundaries and that's really
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annoying them and that's the responsibility of the other to to put rein that back in and make their
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you know husband wife partner whatever feel comfortable dear vicky and lucinda my partner
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introduced me as their friend during an event even though we've been together for six months
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how should i confront them and have the what are we talk oh god well look i mean i'm just a believer
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in kind clear communication you are on you know just saying what are we do we have a status do we
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have a title here but also do we need her i mean obviously they do yeah they're a bit offended i
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mean they're ready for more yeah i don't know i've never had to have this talk because you've
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always been named and claimed well i'm really territorial oh you're the namer and claimer
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yes well there's nothing wrong with that you know what you want and you declare it so dear
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Vicky and Lucinda, I've been in a relationship for seven years and they haven't proposed
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I've been dropping hints, but should I just propose myself? I can't wait any longer
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I do consider myself to be a progressive female and a feminist and all the rest of it. And if you feel like that something that in your wheelhouse go and do it Why not I love the romance of getting someone asking me to marry them In fact years ago I actually proposed to a French fella And I was dating Oh well look it was all on Oui oui
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Until his parents really wanted me to learn French and go and live in Marseille
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I was like, hang on a minute. I've got to go and study holistic counselling instead and sort of did the side sweep out
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But I actually, the point is I had no problems actually proposing myself
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That's great advice then. I'm quite empowered. Not for everyone. Not for all ladies
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But yeah. Why not? It's 2025, babe. That's it. Go on, get yourself in there
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I've got to marry them. It's my turn. I don't know. Divi King Lucinda, my partner, said I love you for the first time
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but I'm not sure I... Oh, I'm not sure I feel the same. Just say it
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Do you think there's a light bulb moment when you should know? I always just say it back
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I don't even care. I just think it's too awkward. Just say it, man
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You might feel it in a couple of weeks and if you don't, then you'll be upset and then who knows if you'll get the chance to say it when you do feel it
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I think just say it. I would sort of go the other way and say authenticity and honesty is always key
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And if you're not really feeling the I love you, hold off
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And yes, it is a light bulb moment. Dear Vicky and Lucinda, my friends, all Kate, my partner, what do I do
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I feel like your friends normally have your best interests at heart
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and are quite a good barometer for like good people and bad people my friends all hated one of my exes
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and he turned out to be a right like proper king of the
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so I would be inclined to hear them out, agree, listen and like sometimes you can't say the wood for the trees
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can you mate? like you know when you're in a relationship and you're like oh I love him he's so nice but you're just so
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you're too close to it to know I would take it And everyone else thinks he's a creep
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Yeah, I would take their advice. I'm sorry. Dear Vicky and Lucinda, my partner is really disorganised with planning our wedding
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and I feel like a bridezilla. How can I encourage him to play a bigger part
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You can't. I would know. I spent all of last year trying to get Erkan
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to be like super invested in our wedding. And whereas I knew he wanted to get married to us
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he absolutely loved the day itself. Like for the most part, men are just not big planners
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Like I genuinely believe that. Like he even left his suit at home for the wedding
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Like we talked about this suit for like six months He got it so last minute It consumed so much of my life and then we were driving to the airport and we were like 20 minutes away and he went i left
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me suit at home and i just thought i don't even want to marry her i'm f***ing yeah so you had no
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other jobs no he had no other jobs like the driver the taxi driver even like turned and looked at him
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was like he was like so offended oh freddie oh dear dear vicky and lucinda my partner's going
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on a big lads holiday and i'm nervous i've been betrayed before how can i get past not trusting
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him i've been here in a sort of similar situation myself and don't want to dwell in the past dead
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happy now everything happens for a reason but i will say this is really valid and i think what
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You can't do, God, I'm getting all deep here, but you can't ever make a current partner, a new partner
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someone brilliant, someone fun, someone impressive, who's came into your life, pay for the mistakes of an old person
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who was in your life. Projections. Yeah, I think that's a recipe for disaster
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Trust has got to be the foundation. Absolutely. And if you're starting to question things like that
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there's something that needs to be bilged that's deeper and stronger. So maybe just talk to him
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Yeah. Talk to him. You know, I hope and pray for everybody. Just deep, deep trust
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Deep trust. Deep trust in yourself and in your partner. That is aspirational. That's the goal
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The box is empty. Disappointment. I'd go all day. I could. I had such a nice time
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I'd love that. We do tend to approach things from slightly different. Which is why it's perfect
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The yin and the yang. That's it. Why should people watch The Honesty Box
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Okay, so I think The Honesty Box is a cross between Love Island, The Traitors
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and with this gorgeous, really authentic, lovely thread of first dates in there as well
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And I just think it kind of has a little bit of something for everybody. I know I'm biased, but I'm obsessed
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I think it might be the best reality TV show ever. And I genuinely feel that it holds people to their highest
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It's quite non-judgmental. We're encouraging authenticity, honesty, and I actually think it's going to revolutionise
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the reality television dating stratospheres. Lucinda looks so profound, isn't she? I just think everyone on there is really fit
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and there's loads of drama but you're really progressive, I love that We'll take her answer instead
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