Up next in 10
I Lost Everything Over a Crush on My Husband’s Boss | Early Fast News
Aug 3, 2025
#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories I Lost Everything Over a Crush on My Husband’s Boss | Early Fast News Everyone said we were a fairy tale—high school sweethearts, a dream marriage. But I destroyed it all… over a man I barely knew. In this brutally honest story, I unravel how an innocent crush on my husband's boss spiraled into obsession, betrayal, and ultimately, rock bottom. From admiration to addiction to complete collapse, this is the story of how I lost my marriage, my home, my family, and myself. 💔 Was it love… or just self-destruction? 📌 Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Do you think I deserved what happened? #infidelity #storytime #marriagedrama #toxiclove #selfdestruction
View Video Transcript
0:00
They said we were a fairy tale. Anna and
0:02
David, high school sweethearts who beat
0:04
the odds and found their happily ever
0:05
after. For 5 years of marriage, we were
0:08
the couple everyone envied. We were us
0:11
against the world, a team, a fortress of
0:13
two. But every fortress has a weak
0:15
point, and ours was a new boss.
0:18
The resentment started slowly, a low hum
0:21
of frustration from David that I at
0:23
first understood.
0:25
His new boss, a man named Mark, was a
0:28
textbook case of nepotism, a
0:30
smoothtalking chameleon who coasted on
0:32
connections rather than competence.
0:35
David, a man who worked tirelessly for
0:38
every promotion, was suddenly saddled
0:40
with his own work and marks. The
0:43
injustice of it all weighed on him, and
0:45
I saw the stress lines deepen around his
0:48
eyes. I sympathized. I really did.
0:52
But beneath my sympathy, a strange
0:54
curiosity began to bloom.
0:56
Who was this man who could cause so much
0:58
chaos with such apparent ease? I found
1:02
myself wanting to know more, wanting to
1:04
put a face to the name David cursed
1:06
nightly.
1:08
It was a morbid curiosity, a desire to
1:10
see the villain of our story for myself.
1:14
Then, at a work party, I met him. And
1:18
the villain I had built up in my mind,
1:20
the pathetic, incompetent man I was
1:22
prepared to despise, was nowhere to be
1:24
found.
1:26
Instead, I found a man with a magnetic
1:29
presence, a charm so potent it was
1:32
almost intoxicating.
1:34
He was sharp, confident, and had a way
1:37
of making you feel like you were the
1:39
only person in the room. A little crush,
1:43
a harmless flicker of attraction,
1:44
sparked to life. And that's when things
1:47
began to shift. I was never good at
1:49
hiding my feelings. And my attraction to
1:52
Mark, a secret I should have kept buried
1:55
deep, started to leak out in my words
1:57
and actions. At home, I'd bring up
2:00
Mark's name constantly.
2:02
"You should be more like your boss," I'd
2:05
say. A casual comment that was anything
2:07
but. He's got such natural charisma. I
2:11
justified it to myself, telling myself
2:13
David was lucky to work under someone so
2:15
successful.
2:17
My curiosity morphed into obsession.
2:20
Work parties, once a chore, became an
2:23
opportunity.
2:24
I'd go out of my way to look my best,
2:26
dressing up as if I were going somewhere
2:28
special, and David, my husband, would
2:31
watch, a question in his eyes I was too
2:33
selfish to answer. I told him it was all
2:36
for his sake, so people at his office
2:39
would think highly of us. I didn't want
2:41
to admit, even to myself, that it was
2:43
more than that. I was doing it for Mark.
2:46
The resentment from David grew. A silent
2:49
tension that filled the space between
2:51
us. When he would complain about his
2:54
boss, I would find myself instinctively
2:56
defending Mark. I couldn't help it. It
3:00
was like I had to protect him from
3:01
David's bitterness. I'd tell David he
3:04
was overreacting, that Mark was a great
3:06
guy just trying to do his job. The words
3:09
I could see cut him deep, but I was too
3:11
caught up in my own fascination to care.
3:14
I began to pay more attention to Mark's
3:15
movements than to David's words. When
3:18
David would talk about his day, I'd
3:20
focus on every detail involving Mark,
3:22
asking about his role, his input, even
3:25
if David was clearly upset and just
3:27
wanted support. My body language, a
3:30
language I had no control over, spoke
3:33
volumes.
3:34
I'd lean in when Mark spoke, hang on his
3:37
every word, and laugh a little too
3:40
loudly at his jokes. I'd find reasons to
3:43
touch him, a light hand on his arm, a
3:46
gentle brush of my fingers on his
3:47
shoulder. It was subtle, but it was
3:50
constant. All the small unconscious
3:52
things a woman does when she's
3:54
interested in someone. I was in a bubble
3:56
where only Mark existed and everyone
3:57
else, including my husband, faded into
3:59
the background. I called him by his
4:02
first name, made inside jokes we had no
4:04
business sharing, and ignored David
4:06
entirely. I'd brush him off when he
4:08
tried to join the conversation, acting
4:10
as though he wasn't even in the room. He
4:13
would watch me, a silent witness to my
4:15
betrayal, and I, in my self-absorbed
4:18
stuper, would just let him. The
4:20
obsession bled into my life outside of
4:22
work events. I'd look up Mark on social
4:26
media, liking every post, every picture,
4:28
every update.
4:30
I'd gush to David about Mark's amazing
4:32
life, his achievements, as if he were a
4:35
celebrity. When David hinted that my
4:37
behavior was off, I'd laugh it off,
4:39
saying I was just being friendly. It
4:42
wasn't enough. I found excuses to
4:45
message Mark directly, a simple hello
4:48
that turned into a constant stream of
4:50
memes, work ideas, and trivial
4:52
conversations.
4:54
I'd pester David with questions about
4:56
Mark, trying to pull more and more
4:58
information out of him. It was a vicious
5:01
cycle of my own making, and I couldn't
5:03
or wouldn't stop. I knew I was hurting
5:06
David. I saw the disappointment in his
5:08
eyes, the way his body would tense
5:11
whenever I mentioned Mark's name, but I
5:14
was so lost in my own feelings that I
5:17
couldn't see how wrong it all was.
5:20
I told myself it wasn't my fault. That
5:24
attraction was something you couldn't
5:25
control.
5:27
I minimized his feelings, shut him down
5:29
whenever he tried to talk to me, and
5:31
made him feel like he was overreacting.
5:35
I saw Mark as a flawless figure, a man
5:37
who could do no wrong. And David is
5:40
irrational for disagreeing. I was a
5:42
selfish, self-centered woman, but I was
5:44
in denial. I was just following my
5:46
heart, wasn't I? I wasn't hurting
5:48
anyone, was I? The final straw. Then
5:51
came the next work party, and it all
5:53
came crashing down. I went overboard,
5:55
putting Mark on a pedestal the entire
5:57
night. I praised him. I flattered him. I
5:59
laughed a little too loudly at his
6:01
jokes. I was a moth drawn to a flame.
6:03
And David was the silent observer,
6:05
watching me burn. The tension, thick and
6:08
suffocating, finally broke during a
6:10
group conversation where David and Mark
6:12
disagreed over a work-related issue.
6:15
All I could think about was siding with
6:17
Mark. It felt natural, a reflexive act
6:20
of admiration. And that was it. The
6:23
final straw. David's face, a mask of
6:26
disbelief and pain, was all I could see.
6:29
He stood up, looked me dead in the eye,
6:31
and in front of everyone, he said, "It's
6:34
over." My heart dropped. I tried to play
6:38
it down to tell him he was overreacting,
6:41
but he was done. He stormed out, leaving
6:44
me standing there, a humiliated statue
6:47
in a room full of shocked and awkward
6:49
faces. I was furious, not at myself, but
6:53
at him.
6:54
How could he do this to me?
6:57
Humiliate me in front of everyone.
7:00
I stood there for a few minutes trying
7:01
to save face, but the silence was so
7:04
heavy, so loud that I couldn't take it
7:07
anymore.
7:09
I decided to ask Mark for a ride home.
7:12
After all, I had been his biggest
7:14
cheerleader all night.
7:16
But he flat out refused without
7:19
explanation, and I felt a wave of cold
7:22
betrayal.
7:23
The man I had idolized, the man I had
7:26
sacrificed my marriage for. Couldn't be
7:29
bothered to help me out. After what felt
7:32
like an eternity, and after asking half
7:33
the room for a ride, a coworker finally
7:36
agreed to drop me off. When I got home,
7:38
I thought things would blow over. I went
7:41
into it expecting a tense conversation,
7:43
a few hurt feelings, but nothing that
7:46
couldn't be fixed. I apologized, but it
7:50
was a half-hearted apology, a selfish
7:52
attempt to smooth things over. I told
7:55
him he was overreacting, that it wasn't
7:58
as big of a deal as he was making it out
8:00
to be. And that's when he blew up. He
8:03
was yelling, fuming, pacing the room
8:05
like he couldn't stand to even look at
8:07
me.
8:08
The words betrayal, disrespect,
8:11
unbelievable, were thrown at me like
8:14
daggers. And then he did the
8:16
unthinkable. He kicked me out. I went to
8:20
my parents' house, but David had already
8:22
called them, telling them I had been
8:24
cheating on him. They, devout Christians
8:27
who saw divorce and cheating as an
8:29
unforgivable sin, wouldn't even let me
8:31
in. They told me to go back to David and
8:34
fix things. I was alone, humiliated, and
8:38
now even my own parents were against me.
8:42
I ended up calling my best friend, who
8:44
thankfully let me crash at her place. It
8:46
was there in my friend's spare room that
8:49
the final nail in the coffin was
8:51
hammered in. My post on Reddit, my
8:54
selfish rant about how I wasn't entirely
8:57
at fault, was discovered and forwarded
8:59
to David. He had been considering
9:02
working things out. He said he had been
9:05
open to couples counseling, to therapy,
9:08
but reading my post, reading my endless
9:10
justifications and my complete lack of
9:13
remorse, he had a change of heart.
9:16
I realized that some things can't be
9:18
fixed, he said, his voice cold and
9:22
detached.
9:23
I'm contacting my lawyer. We're getting
9:26
a divorce.
9:28
It felt like someone had punched me in
9:30
the gut. He said I came off as a
9:32
narcissist, that I never showed any real
9:35
remorse, that I always tried to minimize
9:37
my actions and blame everything on him.
9:40
He said he didn't even know if he ever
9:42
really knew me or if I had just changed.
9:45
My entire world, a world I had taken for
9:48
granted, was crumbling around me. And
9:51
now here I am. The divorce is finalized.
9:56
I'm staying at a homeless shelter, a
9:57
place of last resort. My friend, who
10:00
couldn't handle being a real friend,
10:01
kicked me out. My aunt, who I stayed
10:04
with for a brief, humiliating period,
10:06
kicked me out after accusing me of
10:08
stealing money. My parents, who couldn't
10:11
handle a little bit of mess in their
10:12
perfect lives, have disowned me. David
10:16
took 80% of our joint account, a final
10:19
act of punishment.
10:21
I have nothing. No home, no car, no
10:25
family, no friends.
10:28
Just me. a broken woman in a homeless
10:30
shelter, staring at the ceiling,
10:31
wondering how my fairy tale ended up
10:33
like this. I know David will regret
10:36
this. I know he will come crawling back.
10:40
And when he does, I won't be there.
10:42
Because David, the man who was once my
10:45
world, is just an emotional idiot. and
10:48
I've wasted too much time on