Master your anxiety to unleash your genius, with Jesse Eisenberg
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Mar 29, 2025
Actor, author, and director Jesse Eisenberg demystifies the role of anxiety and self-doubt in leadership.
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When I think about like the kind of motivating factors for me, you know, it's effort and, you know, talent and creativity and all that stuff
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But I cannot underestimate how often I'm just driven by anxiety and fear
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You and I are both very self-hating. A lot of the things that motivate me are like kind of negative motivators
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Misery, self-consciousness, self, I would say self-hatred, and a lot of fear
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I worry all the time that my last job is going to be the final one I'll ever have in my life
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But, you know, when I meet people in other fields who have kind of forged their own paths, they have the exact same story
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And it just occurred to me that this is kind of what, like, great people are motivated by
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They're amazing at their job, they're creative, they think outside the box, but they're also worried that the next time is not going to go well
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Once you're able to kind of reframe that anxiety as fuel, as motivation, as care, you worry less and are motivated more
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Hi, my name is Jesse Eisenberg. I'm known as an actor. I also write and direct
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And I forgot the other thing that I was supposed to say because I was, sorry, shit,
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Hi, I'm Jesse Eisenberg. I'm an actor, writer, and director. And the most recent thing I did was those three things on a movie called A Real Pain
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Probably it's important to dispel the myth that actors are full of themselves and, you know, they're in a movie, so they must be so confident all the time
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As an actor, I've had to cope with, like, kind of being a public person and all that entails
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Because strangely, I often do kind of receive criticism in places that I never expected to receive it
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Sometimes people say to me on the street Hey man, I thought you were okay in that movie
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And they say it as like almost an apology And it makes you feel even worse You know, you care like anybody else
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Who works on anything How the thing is going to be received And sometimes for an actor
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It's heightened that much more Because, you know, it's being written about everywhere If you somebody with the inclinations That I have towards self Towards self What I have created was essentially kind of a bubble that allows me to work at my best It sounds strange but I don watch the movies I been in
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I don't read any reviews of movies that I'm in. I go so far as to not bike past streets that are overflowing of movie advertisements
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because it makes me self-conscious on my way to work. And I know it sounds a little bit like I'm making my life unusually difficult
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and I should just confront those things. I should just hold the tarantula in my hand, so to speak
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bike past those movie posters. But the truth is I found I am most effective
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by not thinking about that stuff, by not becoming obsessed with something that I can't control
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Maybe it comes from a place of fear or weakness, but to me it's the only way I can kind of self-motivate
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I've recently started directing. I've directed two movies now. Being in this kind of new, strange place of like being a manager of people, so to speak
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has not been the easiest transition for me. I realized pretty quickly I am not a great leader in the traditional sense of being able to kind of lead a group into battle
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My advantage was not so much in talking loudly about the thing we need to get and telling screaming people that the sun's going down
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but I am very good at knowing what everybody does and how to kind of get the best from them
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So if you're somebody who feels like me, somebody who feels like they would not be able to lead an army into battle
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try to think of all of the wonderful leaders that you've worked for
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The best leaders I worked for were really kind of like the quiet, sweet directors
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who motivated in subtle, sweet, quiet, relatable ways. The leaders that you like working for are probably not the kind of bombastic, confident person who's the loudest in a room
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I imagine what you might discover is that the leaders that you really liked working for are probably a lot like you
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How did they do it? How did they excel? I only directed two movies and I interviewed people for various jobs for production design for editing for music composition for costumes for cinematography who have done 40 movies in their position and I done one or two Most people I working with know a thousand times more about their jobs than I do
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and so it's important to kind of defer to them and to kind of be humble, be open to learning
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and also be able to kind of provide a space for other people to excel. I am a person who very much wants to collaborate with somebody who has as good or better ideas
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than I do. I am not somebody who wants to be right, and that has motivated me to find people
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who are very collaborative. That kind of humility, that kind of eagerness to learn from others
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and the eagerness to defer to others has just been a great asset for me
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You learn very quickly in acting class that acting, like almost every other collaboration
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requires reacting to the other person, to the collaborator's intention and performing in conjunction with it
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The movie I just finished directing, the two leading characters are played by me
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in the wonderful actor Kieran Culkin, who's on Succession and is an absolute genius performer
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in ways that I don't even know audiences are fully aware of
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because I got to see him improvise in these incredibly complicated character moments
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And yet it was very often not the thing that I had written and not the thing that I had expected
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to perform against. So theoretically, I should have all the authority in the world
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to tell him exactly how I want it to be performed. And I discovered, I think on the second day, that that was not going to be effective
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That when I kind of try to micromanage his wonderful, lived-in, loose performance, it was not helping him
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When, you know, you're acting in a scene, you're supposed to stand on like a little mark so that it makes the lighting look good on your face
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and it makes the camera framing for all the other actors appropriate. He wouldn't stand on marks, and when I asked him to stand on a mark a few times that we did, it would stifle him
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He would work so much better when it was loose. And when he was loose, he was so brilliant
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When I was thinking about the priorities of the movie, the first priority of this movie is that this character is loose, alive, and complicated
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That is so much more important than having the actor in the exact place
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Sorry, how can I then link this back to something bigger and better? What I discovered is that you really should not try to engineer the other person work you should help them achieve the thing that they do best And so as a director I was just enthralled by allowing him to fully live in this role
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to be loose, to improvise, to say what was on his mind. And it made the movie so much better
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And it made the set just this kind of wonderfully enriching, fun place. Sometimes it might be intimidating to think about collaborating with somebody
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who might be more successful, more experienced in their field. The first movie I directed starred one of the greatest film actresses of all time, Julianne Moore
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and I had never directed a movie before, but I had acted in so many movies, and I know what I wanted from a director
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What I love to have as an actor from my leader, from my boss, from the director
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is I love them to really pay attention to what I'm doing and give feedback on that
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And when I was directing, again, this unbearably talented, shockingly, astonishingly talented woman, Julianne Moore
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I was so intimidated to do exactly what I always want directors to do
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I think the reason I was probably a little intimidated was because I thought she would see me for the fraud that I must be
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And so for the first week, I kind of like stayed away from her. I didn't know if she wanted me to give feedback or to ask her to try something in a different way
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and you know finally when I just like splashed proverbial cold water in my face I realized no
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that's exactly what of course she wants that's what I would want that's what anybody would want and so I started giving her some notes and we had the most fun. She argued back with me of course
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sometimes when she disagreed which is totally healthy and wonderful but important part of the
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process and so what I discovered is being in a kind of position of intimidation with a colleague
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is not a sustainable place. I think Julianne Moore is more talented than me
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I think she's a better actor than I'll ever be. I think she's smarter about stories than me
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But those thoughts were not very helpful. The helpful thoughts were, oh, I have a really funny idea for this scene
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and this character that she's playing, and I'm going to tell her what those are now. And that's like so much more, you know, effective
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and such a more fun partnership to have with somebody. Sorry, is that okay
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