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Girls, let's get real for a minute. You don't want to stay to player
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Now I know some of you may think you can make him commit, but trust me, you can't. At least not the complete commitment you're looking for
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Instead, when you see a player, you should run and run fast in the opposite direction
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That's just not worth your time or energy. So how do you know if a guy is a player? Because you can't avoid them unless you can identify them, right
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And it can be really hard to know for sure, because let's face it. Most of us make a massive effort to be ourselves in the early stage of the dating
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This goes to players too. But if you know what you look for, you can spot the signs of a player before you fall for one
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You're 12 such signs to be mindful of. He's flirting with your friend. This may seem like an obvious sign, but loads of women overlook it
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They make excuses like he was just trying to get along with your friend to get closer to you
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No, if you just met a guy in a bar and he spent a fair amount of time flirting with friends as well as you, he's likely to be a player
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He's probably just looking to get with anyone and doesn't really mind whether it's you or your friend or some random girl on the corner of the bar
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players tend to be opportunities with one thing on their mind. He's got wondering eyes
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When you're on dates, he's always checking out the waitress or bartender. Maybe he stares at women in the street even though you're walking right beside him
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Of course, we don't suddenly find everyone else horrifically unattractive when we're seeing someone new
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But it's worth considering whilst he's still openly checking out other women when he's dating you
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If you often catch him staring at other women, you might have your answer. You feel inadequate around other women
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The person you're dating should make you feel attractive, fun, interesting, all the good things
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find that you feel quite insecure when you're with him and other women. It may be because
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of how he behaves. If you feel like he's giving them too much attention or he's putting
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you down in front of them as a joke or to show up he messing you around This is not only a sign that he a player but it shows how little respect he has for you You don need that kind of jerk in your life His exes are all psycho This is one of the most infuriating things to hear as a woman
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It's quite likely that his exes were not psycho. Sure, they may not gotten along very well
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and it's possible one or more than may have been abusive or controlling. But, and that is a big butt
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if they were all crazy according to him, it's worth asking whether this is realistic
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or whether this is just his narrative. Some players choose to dismiss sex partners like this
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because it's easier than omitting what really happened. It's also a way for him to get off the hook
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and gives him a good excuse to keep things casual with you. He's had a lot of flints
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If he's had a lot of short-term relationships, you need to see this for what it really is
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a habit and a choice. Whilst it's perfectly fine to do this, as long as everyone is safe and happy with it
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it may be a sign that he'll do the same with you. If you're comfortable with that, go for it
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Just be sure that you are. If not, think about whether you're happy to see how this habit plans out
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because it may not be the way you want it to be. He's on all the dating apps
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Of course, it's fine for anyone's been a lot of dating apps, but it's a clear sign that he's a player
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If he's consistently meeting up with different people for casual hookups or flings
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he might not be looking for anything serious with you. And if you are looking for something serious, you need to think about how that makes you feel
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If he's still on dating apps but you thought you were seeing each other exclusively
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you need to have a conversation about this. It's not acceptable behaviour and he needs to know that you aren't okay with it
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He's got a reputation for it. Some people get an unfair reputation, but if a lot of people have told you he's a player and he'll mess you around, listen to them
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Listen to them. It can be hard at times, especially when you've been on a couple of days that felt fun
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and exciting, but it's worth paying attention to what other people say
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You don't need to take their word as gospel, but it's good to keep in mind in case you start showing some other signs of being a player Maybe it a joke Maybe it French just winding up about past behaviour But it could be a clear indication that things might not go as you expect in the next few weeks You feel you have to keep an eye on him
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If you've just started dating this guy and you're a bit concerned that he's lying to you or messing you around
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you probably feel like you can't really trust him when you're out. Maybe you've heard him telling people that he's single or that he's a bit too touchy fearly
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If you feel like you have to monitor his behaviour, there's probably an issue with it and it's not very healthy for either of you
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He makes no effort. If you've just started dating him and he's not really making an effort with you, he may be playing the field
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He may like you, but he may also like things when they're easy. A lot of players date around until things get boring or until they're asked to make more effort
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If it feels like he's not that bothered about things, he probably isn't. Of course, it's unrealistic to spect a partner to text back straight away and to never forget a text
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goodnight or to call you when they've said they would. But if it's becoming a bit of a habit that's not making you feel like he really cares
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you need to think about why that could be. Maybe he said from the beginning that he didn't want anything serious
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Maybe he's playing you and stringing you along for his convenience. If it's bothering you and you need to know where you stand, you need to talk about it
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He lies about small things. Sure, we've all tired of few white lies in our time
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But if someone is constantly lying, even about little things, there's a chance they're the kind of person to lie about bigger things too
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If he makes up random excuses, repeatedly changes details of the same story
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or seems pretty shady, he's probably playing you in the same way. We're not suggesting you start accusing you or cheating or betraying your trust just because of
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lies about the shop being out of milk, but you might want to consider bringing the kind of
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behaviour up with him. Try not to come across as critical as there could be a valid reason
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for the lies, but let him know that it makes you feel like you can't trust him and tell
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him that you just want him to feel comfortable being honest with you Give him the chance to come clean and apologise for his behaviour If he doesn take it and carries on lying to you you know what you need to do He really vague If he never goes into detail about what he been up to or who hangs around with or where he was last night etc He might
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be hiding something from you. It's a difficult player behaviour. They don't specifically
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say things that they can't be held accountable for anything later down the line. Of course
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some people are just a little hazy on detail sometimes. Maybe doesn't want to bore you or maybe
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doesn't think that you really care. Or maybe he's nervous to admit that he's secretly obsessed for some geeky past time
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No small behaviour in isolation means someone is instantly a player. But if there are other signs there
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and your gut is telling you he's going to mess you around, pay attention. He brags about women
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Maybe you've overheard in chatting about sleeping with you to his friends. Or maybe it's meant he still share stories
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about girls they've been with. If he seems like the kind of guy who brags about women, he may be lacking the kind of respect
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you're looking for and is likely to be a player. Sure, we all talk about people who dated or slept with
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but if it sounds like he does these things just so he can tell his friends about them, he's probably seizures of conquest
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and not a potential partner. At the end, dating a player probably won't end how you want it to end
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And it's better to recognise those signs and knit things in the bud now rather than get your hopes up that he might change
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Whilst he might change and want to settle down one day, he'll stop displaying these signs when he does
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So if you can still see the signs, you're still dealing with a player. And that's all from me today
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I hope you have a better idea of what to look for when trying to identify a player
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